(Closed) Would YOU want to do this at a wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

does she mean gather up the gifts and guestbook after the wedding and take them somewhere so they don’t get lost, or stand there the whole time hovering over them and telling people what to do? the first isn’t really necessary if it’s at your parents’  house, and the latter is offensive imo.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would NOT want to be a gift or guestbook person.  That might be just me, though.  I feel like everyone hates those jobs.  I think you are fine.  You aren’t obligated to ask them to be in your wedding if you aren’t close.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

@underwoohoo:I would rather attend as a guest, be with my SO and enjoy the family.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I guess I think of those kind of “jobs” more appropriate for a teen/tween, not an adult.  As a grown up, I think I’d rather just come and enjoy myself.  If the issue comes up with your cousins as to why you’re not including them, just explain you’re having such an intimate wedding, it didn’t seem right to have a large bridal party.  I’m sure they’ll understand.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Short and sweet: I would NOT want to do this at a wedding.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’d rather just be a guest! =)

Overall I find it more meaningful when you have a few select and chosen friends/family memebers up there with you, rather than having 10 of you up there  because you feel obligated to have them in the wedding because they are family!

I too felt “pressured” or “Obligated” to have my cousin as my Maid/Matron of Honor because I was hers! But her mom kind of told her who to pick lol!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’d rather be a guest if I were them.

I was a “guestbook” person for my Aunt & Uncle’s wedding…seems like a made up position just to involve more people in the wedding (I was 13 so I just really wanted to do SOMETHING).

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think it would be a lot classier to let them just be guests instead of inventing jobs to make them feel important. Because it would be obvious you were giving into obligations, which is what you wish they hadn’t done, since now you feel uncomfortable being a Bridesmaid or Best Man.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Everyone would rather be a  guest but someone has to do those jobs. I’m also wondering who I will pick and how they will react. But having said that I’ve been asked to do that before,  I even had to help serve appetizers at a friends wedding because she was tryin to save money. I didnt love doing it, but I felt good that I could help her.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

Wow – you learn something new every day, lol!  I’ve never heard of either of those things.  Surely adults are able to see that there is a guest book and really it’s the job of your venue to gather up the gifts for you (unless it’s at a private place – then its whoever you trust’s job to just put them in a room later, lol).  I thought about it and I would not want to have to ‘work’ at anyone’s wedding, unless I’m getting paid like my actual job 🙂  I think it’s much better to be a guest and actually enjoy the reception without having to feel obligated to work.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

@underwoohoo:

WHAT?!  OMG that is terrible!! Wow.  I’d put a camera there,lol – that should stop them!  In the venue I work at the maitre d watches over it and gathers it all up when the cocktail party is over and locks it in their office.  Then if people want to give a gift/card during the reception we put the box right next to the cake table, in front of the whole place.  I guess it would be tough to take them while everyone is looking at you! 😛

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Weird, I was just talking with my Fiance about why would you even need a “gift person.” Sad to hear that people would steal from you on your wedding day! I think we might risk it at ours and not have a designated “gift person” because everyone coming is family or a close friend, and our venue is closed to other guests.

Also, OP, if it were me, I’d definitely rather just be a guest!

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