(Closed) Would YOU want to do this at a wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 17
1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

How about you go ahead with your best friend and his twin, and say you’re not asking anyone else to be in the bridal party because of it being such a small wedding, and you felt it’d be simpler to just avoid including any cousins at all – if none of them are asked, you can’t be accused of playing favourites.


ETA: Right, sorry, I seem to have gotten the wrong end of the stick there. Yeah just make a bullet proof card box and have somebody giving a speech remind everyone to sign the guestbook if they haven’t already. The cousins will be twice as happy to just eat drink and be merry along with everyone else.

Post # 18
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I would rather be a guest. 

I find it interesting that so many bees talk about including significant non-bridal party people to do readings/guest book/program handouts/etc as a nice way of including them however I tend to think that many of these significant people would actually prefer not to be bothered. 


Post # 19
10 posts
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would rather be a guest.

Post # 20
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’d rather just hang out. 

Post # 21
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’d be fine with either.  I had a friend simply call them “hostesses” and she got them very very pretty corsages, and even offered a toast to them (individually) as well as to her bm’s that day at the reception.  She also gave them the same bags as the bm’s.

Not everybody can be a bm, and there are those you love and would like to honor.  I think it’s ok.  But if they wish to be just in attendance, enjoying the moment as a guest, that’s good too. 

Post # 22
2790 posts
Sugar bee

I like what @bellenga: suggested. I think that being a guestbook attendant or a gift attendant is unfun. There is no point to doing either as you feel tied to your “job” rathern than enjoying the wedding like the rest of the bridal party is.

Could they hand out programs at the ceremony? What about helping cut the cake at the reception? Otherwise just allow them to enjoy the day and don’t feel obligated to give them something to do.

Post # 23
1518 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t think there is anything wrong with asking them to be a guestbook attendant. I had one of my good friends do this for me and we included her in most everything a Bridesmaid or Best Man would be included in other than walking down the aisle. I gave her the same dress and jewelry and she was invited to all the pre wedding stuff. 

If you don’t need a guestbook attendant than i wouldn’t do it but if you do then why not. If your up for it include them in the dress and pictures and it will mean more than just being in the background. 

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