Post # 1
SO and I agreed to this vacation but having second thoughts, realizing it would wipe out my vacation time at work.
Location: Duck, NC – the outer banks (Pro)
Lodging: Beach house, newly owned by SO’s dad and step mom (Pro)
Company: SO’s dad and step mom (Pro and Con)
Mode of travel: 12 hour drive each way (Con)
Expenses: Free lodging, generous parents will likely spoil us a little (Pro)
Time off work: Would use up all my paid vacation time at work, causes a conflict for wanting 2-3 additional days off for festivals we already have tickets for. Nice boss tho, so he would prbly still give me the time off though it would be unpaid. I would also feel a little guilty for taking off so much time close together (Con)
Would you want to go on this vacation?
Post # 3
Honestly? No. But we’re international travel junkies. Our vaction time is strictly reserved for trips abroad. Duck island is supposed to be gorgeous though. If that’s more your speed, i’d do it. But, i’d fly instead of drive. 12 hours each way is brutal!
Post # 4
I would go, because I already gave my word that I would. Otherwise, no!
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
I said yes because I love vacations, close or not :]. How would your SO feel if you backed out [or would that not affect things]?
Post # 6
@chillinchillin: Honestly? You lost me at his parents being there IF this is the only trip the two of you will take this year. I LOVE my boyfriends family, but we only get one vacation a year (IF that) and I’d rather it just be me and him 😡
So, if you guys will get some “just y’all” time on another trip in the near future, then yeah, it sounds fun 🙂
Post # 7
Travel Nut here…
I would go.
But then again I LOVE the Atlantic Coastline… and NC’s Outerbanks is spectacular… and having a beach house would be beyond awesome.
The only real CON I see is the drive… but as I am a Road Tripper, that would be a small price to pay for the FABULOUS Vacation at the other end.
Hope this helps,
Post # 8
Yeah. But we recently went on vacation with my parents, my mother-in-law, and our kid, so I’m not really bothered by the family aspect like some people are.
Post # 9
Whether or not I would agree to it in the first place is irrelevant. If I had already agreed, I would not be having second thoughts and considering going back on my word. I don’t think it’s ok to take others’ generosity for granted. You should go, enjoy getting essentially a free vacation, and think about time off work more carefully in the future.
Post # 10
@chillinchillin: I wouldn’t go because I am from NC and would prefer to visit other places, I don’t really feel like I’m on vacation when visiting with family, and the time off takes up all of your vacation time.
However, if you’ve never been to the outer banks it’s beautiful and sounds like most of your expenses except gas would be taken care of.
Post # 11
Hi everyone! Thanks for the input!
To the people commenting on how we already agreed-
The parents are going down to their beach house on their own terms regardless of what we do. They have several bedrooms, and extended welcome to us as well as their two children and their SOs. Their kids are back and forth if they want to go. It doesn’t really matter. They are laid back and aren’t gonna be effected if we go or don’t go. They go on about 10 vacations a year and have been down to the house a couple times already too. This isn’t a huge deal to them.
The drive is brutal.. funny my SO and I have spent a month driving xcountry before, but I’m balking at the lengthy ride now! haha!
Thanks for the all the input! I talked to SO, he reminded me that he had these same reservations up front. We will be sleeping on it and deciding asap. It would be a nice trip, but is it the number one way we want to spend our time (PTO and otherwise)? Thanks so much for your opinions! It is always helpful!
Post # 12
@chillinchillin: no but only because to me vacation is about doing what we want and not having to spend it with family especially parents. That is me though so if you think hanging with his rents can be cool then I say go for it
Post # 13
Nope I wouldn’t go. I don’t do vacations with family especially extended time period. Weekends at the parents house sure, anything more than that no thanks.
Post # 14
@chillinchillin: Can you fly there? Maybe go but don’t stay the whole time, you can use the excuse of vacation days at work.
Post # 15
@LaTortuga: yeah it’s cool-ish. LOL! we only see them a few times a yr, they are laid back, fun, and generous (not just in $ but in every aspect of wanting to share good times and good fortune). however naturally w/o offense to them i’m not jumping to spend a whole week with them, but we did go on vacation with them to mexico last summer and it was a great time. very ‘family’- you want to spend time with them, but at the same time you don’t. LOL
Post # 16
Ok my SO n I figured this all out so I thought i’d post an update!
So, we ARE going on the vacation and fixed the problems w it! We solved the long drive and no time for ourselves concerns by stopping along the way in delaware (rehoboth beach) for the fourth of july and then in ocean city md the next day and night, before meeting his folks in NC the next day! Fun! And I solved my time off concerns (was worried about having time for the two upcoming festivals we always go to) by sacrificing the smaller, closer show for the bigger further away oceanside one! So I didn’t take off any time for show 1, but I got thurs fri and mon for show 2! Never cleared my schedule for it that well so i’m psyched!
Thanks for everyone’s helpful input! We are very excited for the trip now! SO’s step bro and girlfriend are coming too, it will be nice cause we hardly ever see them or his dad and stepmom. Oh yeah and its actually a 9.5 hr drive not 12 hr (anything helps! lol). Thanks again everyone!