- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
I have a new family member that has not only called me a horrible lying B that is a terrible person, (long story but they have lost several of their only friends the past two years by calling them horrible to deflect the negative attention off them. They fight as a couple publicly all the time, ruin vacations, get biligerently drunk almost daily, and the man cusses out other women, not just his wife. Anyone who calls them out on their behavior or wont put up with it, becomes a horrible lying B or a terrible person… Manipulators).
Anyways the first year of meeting my SIL, she told me all about the family, but NOTHING nice. She called my Father-In-Law worthless, My Mother-In-Law a gossipy B, but the thing that bothers me most is she called my other SIL’s kids white trash and that the mom had drank during her pregnancies because the one girl (she diagnosed with her public affairs degree) had fetal alcohol syndrome( which she is perfect and gorgeous, definitely no problems) . They never talk to the family, our grandma is dying, they dont care, and they constantly say how they are paying for their neices and nephews because they say they are mooching off the state (theyre not).
So thats some background on them. My Husband and I try to be the best family possible, we attend every party, randomly watch our nieces and nephews because we love them, stop by to visit his grandma many times weekly and pretty much bend over backwards to love on and help out the family whenever we can. But we never get a thank you or acknoledgement which I would be ok with if it didnt go to his above mentioned Brother and SIL for no reason. His whole family claims they hate them, that the SIL has ruined their son and brother and that she is a royal B who is rude and manipulating. When I first heard them express this (they know nothing about them calling me nasty things) I was a little happy I thought yay i will have some support., but no. The next day on a picture of the mean SIL on my facebook, my other SIL was saying how amazing she was and a great aunt blah blah blah. They show up about once every three gatherings and get praised for being awesome and coming, the brother was in our wedding and didnt come to rehearsal and was late to pictures the day of. She brought her mother and a friend to the wedding and they got shit faced by the car while we were taking pictures right by them. All in all, my new family daily says how they treat them like crap, how rude they are, how they call them everyday and havent heard from them in months but when it comes to seeing them face to face they act like they are saints!
What do I do?! Should I tell my other SIL that this girl goes telling EVERYONE that they are on welfare, her kids are white trash with FAS and that she is an alcoholic? Would you want to know, what would you do? Im tired of being the best person I can possibly be and getting pushed to the back burner by these horrible people or by allowing them to manipulate things. My Mother-In-Law knows what they say about this family, what they do, and what they have done to me and my husband, but tells US that we need to grow up (SIL BLOCKED me on facebook instead of talking to me and then called me immature bitch blah blah on my dead brothers birthday a week before my wedding, on a message over the blocked facebook) and apologize (which we have, or talk to them, which we have). Its like I cant win! any help, or is anyone else going through this?