(Closed) Would you wear a dress from a previous engagement?

posted 7 years ago in Dress
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  • Post # 17
    201 posts
    Helper bee

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    @bohosioux:  agreed 100%. dress and ring are totally different. The ring is given to you by your fiance and therefore a symbol of the relationship. the dress is something beautiful that you want to get married in. I don’t think it much matters if you’re marrying a different person than you originally thought 8 years later. If you love the dress, wear it! (i guess check with your FH to make sure that it’s ok with him too)

    Post # 18
    434 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would have to say HELL NO! Haha, ok…so I am engaged to a guy that I was engaged to for 2 years (we had been dating for 4 and half years). I went to college and he was getting ready for his second deployment and the Corps was just really stressing him out and messing him up and I realized I wasn’t being treated right so I left him. A year passed and we never thought we would see each other again until I accidentally texted him. Then, one thing lead to another and we are engaged again and happier than ever. HOWEVER, I made him take back my previous engagement ring because I could hardly stand to look at it. It symbolized nothing but pain and heartbreak for me and I didn’t want to start our new relationship off on something so…bad. I think your dress situation is very similar. Do you really want to start your marriage off on that foot?

    Post # 19
    1412 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2017 - Downtown Riverfront Cafe

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    @BHB0526: Glad I could help. Best of luck with your decision and congratulations on the wedding talk. 🙂

    Post # 20
    737 posts
    Busy bee

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    @BHB0526:  Your question was addressed to other Bees asking them if THEY would wear the dress.  This is a very personal question and each of us would have our own reasons whether we would wear the dress or not.

    Personally I wouldn’t, I would try to sell it and start looking again.  You say you like the dress, you probably like the style and I am sure 8 years down the track there are many more options available to you.

    I am going to be a MOB, if it was my daughter, I would help her buy another dress.

    Only you can make this decision so either way, I wish you all the happiness in the world for your forthcoming wedding.

    Post # 22
    395 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

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    @BHB0526:  It is hard to put myself in your shoes since I have not been engaged before. What about changing some part of the dress in some way? Like adding or removing sleeves, adding a bolero, adding a different belt, mayble adding a beaded accent, or broach, etc. I think sprucing it up to take on a new look could make it a new dress. This is just a thought since I am not sure what the dress looks like or whether you would want to make any changes on it.  

    Post # 23
    2912 posts
    Sugar bee

    I voted Yes, but a more accurate description would be “Yes, if I was comfortable with the situation.” I wouldn’t wear it if my former Fiance had helped choose it, or if former Fiance wanted a steampunk wedding and I chose the style of the dress based on that, or if former Fiance had paid for the dress, or if former MIL-to-be had gone shopping with me. But if I had chosen the dress because I loved it, paid for it myself, and still loved how I looked in it, I would definitely consider wearing it.

    Post # 24
    3656 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2000

    @BHB0526:  It’s YOUR dress not his, wear if you still love it. But 8 years is a long time in the wedding  world, it may be outdated.

    Post # 25
    2362 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    I say if its been 8 years and you dont see the EX, just yourself walking down the aisle to meet your current Fiance, then you rock your gorgeous dress!! I honestly dont know what I would do personally but I wouldnt necessarily think weirdly of someone who would! Can we see pics??

    Post # 26
    1841 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Any photos? 🙂

    Post # 27
    3415 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

    If I really loved the dress I would wear it. I’m not superstitious at all. I don’t believe a dress is tainted if it was bought for a different wedding. 

    Post # 28
    6261 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    I totally think it would be tainted for me- on my wedding day I don’t want to be thinking about my broken engagement from years ago

    Post # 29
    3063 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I don’t think I would, personally. If I was considering it for the budget factor, I would try to sell the dress and use what I made from it to buy a different one.

    Post # 30
    4438 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    Hmmm if it were me I would ask my Fiance but thinking about my dress, I bought it because I looked the best in it, and I don’t think that would change based on the guy.  I might shop again in your position because I already want to do so seeing the new styles that came out.

    Post # 31
    577 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    If I stilled loved the dress, I’d absolutely wear it if it fit. I like the suggestion by bohosioux to play around with accessories so you have that experience of shopping.

    Also, and this is just a suggestion, you could also consider doing some alterations to make it into a “new” dress rather than starting from scratch.

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