Post # 1
So on the way to work, I was listening to the radio and a man called in asking for opinions. He and his girlfriend of several years are going to a Halloween party. When Boyfriend or Best Friend came home, Girlfriend was in her sexy nun costume and asked him what he thought of her costume. Boyfriend or Best Friend said that she looked like a slut and whore and that if she wanted to wear things like that, then she was disrespecting him. I either missed the part when they asked if she had done this before or it was never asked, but it did make me wonder how many men get upset seeing their wives or girlfriends in these types of costumes.
So, would you wear a costume even if SO objected (but maybe said it in a better verbage then the caller on the radio)?
Post # 3
@Orchidgirl80: I replied no but to be honest I wouldn’t wear one to begin with. BUT I’ve been with my SO for 8 years and if he said it made him uncomfortable then I would change, no big deal.
But if I really loved it, and he said I looked like a whore and was disrespecting him I’d just dump him and wear it anyway. I’m not his accessory and I’m not there to make him look good. Obviously if I were the type of person who wanted to wear the slutty costumes – he should have known that.
Post # 4
I’d wear one, I have. My Fiance would never object. He encourages me to wear them, even when it’s not halloween.
ETA: my Fiance doesn’t find it disrespectful. He’s proud of me, and my age and what I have to show off, and so am I. I’m 39, look in my 20’s, 130 pounds, fit, after having 2 children! Most people my age that I went to high school with, look like they are 10-15 years older and are over weight. So, I like to show off too.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2014 - Legare Waring House
@Orchidgirl80: Honestly I wouldn’t wear it unless he wanted me to in the first place. I’m not exactly about flaunting my stuff!
However, if he spoke to me like that…we’d have other issues.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
I would probably just choose a different costume if mine made my Fiance uncomfortable, but I wouldn’t tolerate him saying I looked like a slut or whore. Sure my costume would probably be inappropriate, but so is saying disrespectful things like that 😉 If he respectfully and calmly told me that it bothered him, then I would consider changing.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
Well doesn’t he sound pleasant? If he told me I couldn’t like that I might do it just to spite him. I don’t know. I’ve never dated anyone who had a problem with my “Sexy” costumes…not that they are outrageous or anything.
Post # 8
@Orchidgirl80: I wouldn’t wear one anyway because I don’t like that kind of thing. I’d only expect my husband wouldn’t either.
Assuming I did want to wear one and he said he hated the idea, then I wouldn’t do it. Small things, pick your battles, that kind of thing.
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@Orchidgirl80: If my SO didn’t like it, I would cover up or change my costume. He would never demand that I not wear it but he would tell me that it makes him uncomfortable or he would prefer if I covered up more and I would respect that. As a PP said though, my SO probably wouldn’t object and would actually encourage me to dress in a sexier costume. This year my costume is pretty revealing but I plan on wearing flesh-toned shorts and a bra underneath it so there really isn’t anything on display.
Post # 10
In this situation? Yes, because I would immediately be single after being called a slut and a whore.
Post # 11
@whoa_its_ash: And this is a girl that he said that he planned on marrying!! Can’t wait to see how he talks to and about her when/if they actually get married.
Post # 12
I would not wear one regardless of what he likes because it would make me uncomfortable and it simply isn’t my thing. With that being said, I would certainly get into a fight about him using such language when referring to me.
Post # 13
I wouldn’t wear one to begin with. The skanky nurse, skanky cop, skanky hobo costumes were never my thing.
Post # 14
@Orchidgirl80: I voted ‘other’ because I detest ‘sexy’ Halloween costumes, so wouldn’t wear one anyway.
However, if hypothetically I did want to wear one (which really I don’t see as massively different to going out in a short/fitted dress, or a top that shows cleavage) and my OH spoke to me like that, I’d probably show him the door; even if he was more polite and less aggressive about it, I would still find it controlling. He has no right to dictate what I wear, thank you very much.
Post # 15
@vorpalette: You took the words out of my mouth.
OP, if it covers as much or as more as a bathing suit I wouldn’t see a problem. The whole “I own your body” thing is pretty sickening. The only objection I would find acceptable would be if a costume showed an inappropriate amount of skin for public.
Post # 16
Wow I wouldn’t respond well to being told I look like a slut and a whore… I wouldn’t wear one if Darling Husband told me he wasn’t comfortable with it. I would expect him to return that favor as well.