(Closed) Would you wear an E-ring you hated?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Um, this is going to sound shallow, but probably not. 

I mean, if he bought it for me and was really excited about it, I’d probably try to convince myself that I liked it. But there’s a reason I told him explicitly (pictures included) what I liked, and approved each step of the ring!

Luckily he understands me well enough to know that I am picky and this is important. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Definitely not.  I told my FH before we got engaged that if he got me a ring I didn’t like (read: a ring I didn’t pick out).  I wouldn’t be very happy and we would be returning it.  Since he didn’t have much of an opinion either way, (he really wanted a single solitaire), I picked out the ring.  He surprised me by the engagement, and the ring (which we bought online, so I had never seen) was even more gorgeous in person.  So glad we went this route!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

@otb – I’ve only seen pictures of mine, too. So you feel that made it more special for you? I was a little worried about not having the surprise moment. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It depends on if I gave him some guidelines. If I gave my Fiance some guidelines and he totally disregarded them and got the ring HE wanted me to have opposed to something I like DELIBERATELY then hell to the no…I would not wear it.

However, since I don’t wear rings…if I didn’t give my Fiance any guidelines and he was making a guess based on what he thought I might like in a ring then I would TRY to learn to love it…but if I didn’t, I would find a way to politely ask for something else.

I am not a fan of solitaires or any round shaped diamonds…so my Fiance used to joke that he would get me a round solitaire =) Of course he didn’t but had he followed through he already knew that I was trading it in.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i think i’d wear it, even if i didn’t love it. i’m more of a sentimental person. i actually had the option of changing the setting of my ring, it was passed down from his family and his mom said if i didn’t like it i could change it. luckily i love it so it doesn’t matter anyway, but even if i didn’t i wouldn’t have the heart, especially because i wouldn’t want to change his families ring. i know my least favorite ring would be anything modern. but again, if that’s what he gave me, that’s what i’d take. my mom has a ring that she’s going to pass down to me that’s modern. i’m not excited about it, but it’s my mom’s, and it’s a diamond, so i’m not going to complain.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

I’m lucky that I do love my ring, but I would probably wear whatever ring my husband gave me.  For me, it’s the thought that counts. 😉

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I had this discussion with my bf and he was like if you say you don’t like it then I would say never mind on the proposal. I guess he feels it’s bit shallow. He would want me to wear it, but bring it up in private that I would like to exchange it if possible. Luckily, he knows my taste and has bought me jewlery in the past, which I love. So I hope not to have a problem when he proposes.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

@lilyfaith – I was happy that I got to choose something I know that I will love.  And because it turned out to be so gorgeous in person.  Also the engagement was the big surprise.  My FH doesn’t know this (I feel terrible, but I HATE surprised), but I had been stalking his email to see when the ring would ship.  And when it didn’t get shipped on the day he had planned to propose (still didn’t know how he was going to propose), I put in the tracking number and it was supposed to come the day after.  So when he proposed on the original day (in the cutest way possible!) it was a huge surprise, because I was expecting the ring to come a day later.  What actually came a day later was the certificate and everything, that’s what I had tracked, haha.  So long story short, yeah even though I had seen the ring online already  I was still surprised, and excited.  Just to hear those words coming out his mouth and seeing him kneeling there all smiling and excited was enough for me.

Post # 12
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Busy bee

@ejs4y8: Exactly, they should be happy we stay with them so long before getting proposed..

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

It would read all over my face if I didn’t like it. I have one of those faces – impossible to conceal emotion and Fiance knows immediately when something’s up. Luckily he also knows me well enough to know that I would want to pick it out. Our situation was a bit different since we were using an heirloom stone from my great grandmother’s ring, so I was involved in the ring situation already.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

@otb – haha, that’s great! At least you were still surprised. 

I was the same way, absolutely needed to pick it out. And I was picky at every stage, down to asking for a smaller band even though the one I wanted was in stock, just in a little thicker diameter. 

So I’m waiting for the official proposal moment, and I just want to make sure that the surprise won’t all be gone – because let’s face it, as a kid I totally peeked at Christmas gifts, and that always ruined it! 

@ejs – hmph, you should have told him you’d think about it. 😉 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I think its important that a bride is happy with her e-ring because its a piece that will be worn a lot. If I hated my ring, I wouldn’t wear it.

I’m getting a new e-ring because I wasn’t in love with my original. My Fiance wanted to get me a solitaire, I wanted a split shank band… and he was right! The second I put on my e-ring I longed for a solitaire & the band got sooo sooo filthy.

It took me 8 months to tell him though. He laughed & said this is the only time he’s going to change my e-ring. I also had to say “You were right” about 1000 times… lol

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We talked about it at one point because my best friend had gotten engaged and she said if she didn’t like the ring she’d wear it anyway.  Fiance (who was then soon-to-be-FI) said that he wouldn’t want me to wear a ring I didn’t love and he wouldn’t mind if I wanted to change the ring.  Thankfully that wasn’t an issue but all I said to him about the ring was that I preferred: white gold and no stone with right angles (no princess or emerald cut and also nothing pointy like marquis or pear)

I wasn’t concerned about the stones as much as the band – I wondered if it would be too thin or too thick but thankfully it’s perfect for my little snausage fingers!  :0)

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