Post # 1
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Bumble bee
I am tiny, only 5ft2 and my fiancee is over 6ft. I was planning to wear gorgeous, super high heels on my wedding day. I am getting married at a Vineyard,above a wine cellar overlooking the Auckland Harbor. BUT Here is the problem. I just found out how far the bridal party have to walk. Down two flights of stairs,down a long paved path,up about 10 steps edged in sleepers and back on to pavers again, then down the aisle made of pavers lol. Now, I am pretty stable in heels,but with a small train, veil, and carrying a bouquet, should I risk the heels? If not,what other options are there?
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
I would suggest practicing if possible; take them along to a fitting and try walking up and down in them. If you feel unstable in the shop, you’ll definitely feel unstable doing that amount of walking and handling steps. I would also ask if you can go to the venue, and bring a pair of heels in the height and style you hope to wear, and walk up and down several times and see how you feel. Again, if you’re struggling as it is, high heels probably won’t be a great idea with the added weight of the dress and train.
I was originally going to wear 3.5 inch strappy sandals for the ceremony, and a 2.5inch peep-toe pair for the dancing. Now I have my dress (I’m odd, the shoes came first lol) I’ll be switching that around, and wearing the 2.5inchpair for the ceremony and the 3.5 inch pair for the dancing. Reason being I have to walk about 3 minutes to the ceremony venue, and my dress with the train is REALLY heavy. I felt completely unstable in the 3.5 inch heels, and so decided to go with the lower ones. But for the evening, my dress will be bustled up, so no train dragging about, and because the heels are slightly higher, it won’t drag on the floor, plus I’m better at dancing in higher heels. Could something like this work for you? Ie a slightly lower heel for the ceremony itself, but high ones for everything else?
Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
@Kimy: I am such a fan of heels but as pp said I would practice in them. It’s a good idea to wear the shoes a few times before the big day!
What about having a pair or flip flops, wedges, etc…wearing them for all the walking and carrying a small tote bag with the heels to change into? Thanks always an option as well….just have one of the bridesmaid carry it.
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
@barbie86: That does sound a good option. I would feel a lot safer lol, but could show case the heels for the dance.AWESOME..Thank you.
Post # 6
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Blushing bee
Personally, I’m not stable enough on heels. I really need to focus all my energy on staying up- I wil never understand how some girls seem to be born to walk in heels and then others (like me) are all wobbly I’m just over 5’1″ and my fiance is a little over 6″. We are having an outdoor ceremony in an old English garden and I am FIGHTING a losing battle with some members of the bridal party to let me wear flats. I might settle for a low or kitten heel to satisfy everyone and I do agree that they are a bit dressier than the ballet flats. (I’ll just have to pack those for the reception!) But, I’m not wearing the heels for height– it’s purely aesthetic. I don’t know about you, but being short is part of who I am and I’m totally okay with being teeny tiny next to my fiance on our big day. That’s just who we are.
So… Long story short, I think it really depends on what you’re capable of and what you’re most confortable in. If you must have a heel, maybe settle for a lower, more stable heel to go with the environment you’ll be getting married in.
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
@weddingbound: I have run in heels many a time but I do admit I am a bit dubious.A change could be a possibility, or a practice at the venue. Thank you for your comment..x
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
@fleetian4life: You raised a very good point. Normally i wouldn’t be concerned about my height with my man. Maybe it is the fact that my dress is long and I would have to make the dress shorter and lose length, and fear that may look silly… lol…
Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
Are people going to watch you walk this whole way? If not, I would put the heels on at the last second!
Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
I’d definitely rock heels. I’d just make sure not to get super skinny stilettos that would get stuck easily.
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
@RunnerBride13: YUP watching ALL the way LOL from on top of the cellar. I might be out of sight for just a small moment…at the bottom of the railway sleeper stairs…
Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
@Kimy: Oh wow!! Well, will you have someone’s arm to hold? If the shoes are really comfortable, or maybe have a wide heel, I woudl do it. My Fiance is 6’2″ and I’m 5’4″ and I’m definitely wearing heels so we can fit in the same pictures haha!
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
@pinkshoes: ..Ditches her super skinny choice hahaha
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
This pic gives an idea of the venue walk..Sorry pic huge…gasp! That is some lovely bride I got off the net 🙂
