Post # 1
Simple question. I have my own thoughts on this topic, which came up in friendly conversation with my girlfriends. Opinions were all across the board which was very interesting. So, like any other great question, I thought I would take it to the Internets! 😉
Leave a little comment and tell us what you picked.
Post # 3
I chose the first one..because I dont believe that a stone/metal can really be “used”..its not like you are the first person to ever touch/put on your ring even when you buy it new a store so I dont see much of a difference.
Post # 4
As I am obsessed with vintage things I would love a “used” ring. I wouldn’t be okay with him recycling an ex’s ring though.
Post # 5
I would have picked the first option if it didn’t include an ex’s ring. How could it be selected out of love for me if he picked it for somebody else first?
Post # 6
Good point, I would not want a ring that he picked out for his ex..thats the only exception.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t care anything about where it came from or who, as long as it was given out of love.
Edit: I wouldn’t even care if it were the ex’s, I know where his heart if now.
Post # 8
I’m a little superstitious. 😉 I would not want the ring of someone I do not like or of a dead person who had a terrible marriage. I’m not sure I’d want an ex’s ring either because it would remind me of the past relationship. I know it’s ridiculous…
Of course it depends how nice the ring is. I’m pretty sure I could get over it.
Post # 9
The only reason I didn’t vote for the first was the “ex” part. The pawn shop part I wouldn’t have a true problem with. The ring is what you make it, as far as feelings, association, etc.
Post # 10
I would be fine with a “used” stone as long as it had never belonged to SOs ex.
Post # 11
I would be okay with anything except for an ex’s ring. That seems weird and obviously he didn’t choose it for me.
Post # 12
I wouldn’t be okay with a ring that belonged to an ex, but my ring is a family heirloom and I love it! It was FI’s grandmother’s and has over 50 years of happy marriage already. 🙂
Post # 13
I don’t think that there are really “used” stones, and it would not bother me if the stone had originally belonged to someone else. I toyed with the idea of asking my mom for a ring that was my grandmother’s (it’s a gorgeous ring – really one of the most beautiful rings I’ve ever seen and I know someday she wants me to have it; it’s a canary diamond in rose gold, and I don’t normally like rose gold!). However, I felt unsure about if I would want to keep that setting and I prefered to have a new setting – and felt awful about getting rid of the setting. I will say that teh diamond in my engagement ring is “used” but we got a new setting. I wanted a setting that was very “me” and that I would love wearing every day.
Post # 14
I would definetly not be happy if it was originally intended for an ex!
Post # 15
I wouldn’t mind if my ring had came from a pawn shop or not. But if it was an ex’s I would have. Even though my husband & I have been together 5 years this month so his last ex was when he was 17. LOL I still wouldn’t like it.
Post # 16
My ring is from a vintage store and I love it! I don’t think one for an ex would be ok though.