Post # 77
I did not wear my e-ring on my job interview. Working in a profession that is mainly men, I figured that it may hurt my chances, as crazy as that sounds. I ended up getting the job over other older, married females. Sad, but true 🙁
The funny thing is that I was scared to tell Fiance about it because I thought he would be hurt. To my surprise, when I told him he completely agreed with me and told me that he was going to suggest it but forgot.
Post # 78
I have not been wearing my ring because it was soldered and I don’t want to wear it before the wedding. However, I had an interview and I did wear the set.
Post # 79
Interesting. What was their reasoning?
Post # 80
I didn’t even think twice about wearing mine to an interview a couple months ago and I landed the job so I guess it didn’t matter. I will say I’ve felt a little self-conscious wearing it around the office though since all the women I work with are at least 5 – 20 years older than me but my engagement ring is definitely flashier than everyones. Not saying that to try and brag, it just is. It’s round cut and very sparkly and the other women I work with just wear their wedding bands. It actually has kind of bothered me to the point where I kind of hide my hand in meetings sometimes and I’ve considered starting to just wear my band after the wedding!
Post # 81
I think this is a great topic!! I am a chef which is a world dominated by Men and as I was looking for a part time cooking gig, to go along with my fill time one this thoguht crossed my mind… and I took my ring off for the interview. The way the interviewers acted was pretty normal – But flirty. As I went back for my 2nd interview the flirty continued yet when i mentioned my Fiance (not flaunting or anything) it got a little more serious. It was just interesting to see the difference. And mind you that if they were to have asked I wouldnt have lied and said i was single or anything. It was just interesting — overall, yes I did get the job. However quit bc it sucked!!! lol.
As I see it it was just a little experiment. But now that I am about to be MARRIED MARRIED – then I wouldnt take it off for ANYTHING IN THE WORLD!!!
Post # 82
No doubt I would take them off. I am sure that some people judge you on it, and think you will run off having babies or be obsessed with planning your wedding. Even if they think they don’t discriminate, most humans subconsciously make judgments. It’s hard enough to get a good job, I would do everything I could to make that happen – and I have no problems with this ethically. It’s not lying, it’s simply not wearing a piece of jewelry. It doesn’t make you any less engaged or married if you are not wearing your ring.
I would have no issue showing up on the first day of a job with my ring on and have it be a surprise for them. None whatsoever.
Post # 83
A place that judges me based on what I have on my finger is not a place I want to work anyway
Post # 84
I was told something similar once by a job coach. I’m planning to get a gem free wedding band so in situations like this I can leave the engagement ring at home and just wear the plainer band without going completely ringless when we do things like job interviews or vacations.
Post # 85
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Shows you are an adult, serious about your commitments, and able to handle the stress of being engaged and/or married while writing a dissertation.
Besides, you’re clearly committed to your career too and moving for a job anyway since in academia in the Humanities you are going wherever the job is, and if you were picky, you wouldn’t even be on the VAP and AP market.
Post # 86
I must also add that I wore my engagement ring to an interview and was hired on the spot….but whatever you feel is best. It is entirely up to you.
Post # 87
Hahaha, I have a friend who used to appear before a judge in South Carolina that required all female attorneys to wear skirts in his courtroom. She used to comply, simply because she felt that non compliance would harm her clients.
Post # 88
If you’re going to judge me based on my e-ring, you can keep your job.