Post # 49
I wouldn’t wear it if it was awful:)as the others day ur mum had her day:)it’s sweet of u to consider ur mums feeling though! but i think her dress is gorgeous!but definitely the sleeve should be altered!and u can make it amazing with ur hairdo and hair accecories etc!Good Luck:)
Post # 50
I would tell my mom no way. I love her, but she got to choose her dress. Why shouldn’t you get to choose yours. I’ve never understood why moms want their daughters to wear their dresses.
Post # 51
It’s your day. Your mom has had her turn and shouldn’t expect you to wear her dress. If you do end up wearing it alter the sleeves.
Post # 52
I think you should be entitled to your own dream dress. She will get over it. I really like the how case thing.. This Is why I’m thinking of selling my dress after, my kids will want their own..
Post # 54
Wow what a pretty dress. Do you have a link for this? I would wear this sucker to work!
Post # 55
@bloodtipped: I have a beautiful dress, that was quite the fashion – in the late 80’s. No way would I expect my daughter to wear it. Of course she says she could never fit in it, as the dress is very, very small. But I suspect she wouldn’t want to wear it even if she was thinner!
Do your own thing!
Post # 56
No, but I did wear my mom’s dress for Halloween one year. I was a zombie bride. And her dress was all yellow’ed and stained, so it worked well.
Post # 57
I agree with the others. Maybe you can alter it. If not, I wouldn’t do it.
Post # 59
I was in the same situation but my mom was okay with me altering her dress. But the sleeves are her dress were twice as poofy as your mom’s! Like, they were full on spheres…Plus the fabric on her dress is really heavy and polyester/sateen or something I think…I really want something w/ chiffon or tulle, something light.
ANYWAYS, your mom should understand. With wedding dresses, trends come and go and I think if you bought a dress with the idea of keeping it for your daughters, you should go w/ a very classic, traditional dress. I would certainly understand if my daughter didn’t want to wear my wedding dress. But really, she did get her chance to pick out a dress, so should you. You should tell her that you want to have that experience. Maybe you could put on her dress and take some nice pictures for her.
Post # 60
You are a fantastic daughter, I have no suggestions as my mom does not care and frankly shes a skinny mini and I’m much bigger framed and several inches taller so it wouldn’t work out anyway, but I swear my mom has that exact dress.
Post # 61
Wow you are a great daughter. But your mother is totally off base. I honestly don’t get where that tradition started. I think you shouldn’t wear her dress because it’s completely different from the style you want. YOur mom got her day to wear her special dress and so should you, if it was your idea and you liked the dress it would be a different story. Your mom dress is very dated and it is unfair of her to expect that either one of your sisters or you to wear it. The fact that she won’t even let it be altered is asking to much. It’s been months since you posted but I hope you went wedding dress shopping.
Post # 62
I think you should alter the sleeves but dont take them off completely, just have them made MUCH smaller and more modern. That way your mom can still be happy about it (explain this to her that its just NOT modern and/or your style) since it will still have the sleeves and it will look much better for you : ) In the end its YOUR wedding and you should wear the dress YOU want. Otherwise tell her gently that you wont wear it this way.
She may get hurt but she will get over it im sure!
Post # 63
I think it’s unfair of her to expect you to wear her dress and guilt you into it.
Different times, different styles and choosing your own dress is part of the excitement of being a bride.