(Closed) Would you wear your mom’s dress to avoid her hurt feelings?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 47
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

You shouldn’t feel forced to wear your mothers dress, your wedding is a special day. As much as my own mother would disagree, your wedding is about YOU! Not fulfilling your mothers fantasy. With that being said, there is nothing wrong with wearing your mothers dress! That lace top looks beatifully made. I agree with many of the posters, convert the sleeves and you will have an updated, gorgeous dress.

 

Post # 48
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53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Most moms would be happy to see you in ANY white dress.I say you take her dress shopping with you and if she’s still being super stubborn, then y’all need to have a talk. You could make your mom happy for a day, but you’ll be not-so-happy every time you see those wedding pics.

Post # 49
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134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I wouldn’t wear it if it was awful:)as the others day ur mum had her day:)it’s sweet of u to consider ur mums feeling though! but i think her dress is gorgeous!but definitely the sleeve should be altered!and u can make it amazing with ur hairdo and hair accecories etc!Good Luck:)

Post # 50
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242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would tell my mom no way.  I love her, but she got to choose her dress.  Why shouldn’t you get to choose yours.  I’ve never understood why moms want their daughters to wear their dresses.

Post # 51
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895 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It’s your day. Your mom has had her turn and shouldn’t expect you to wear her dress. If you do end up wearing it alter the sleeves.

Post # 52
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228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think you should be entitled to your own dream dress. She will get over it. I really like the how case thing.. This Is why I’m thinking of selling my dress after, my kids will want their own..

Post # 53
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272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

NO.

Post # 54
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272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@spicyrutabaga:  Wow what a pretty dress. Do you have a link for this? I would wear this sucker to work!

Post # 55
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@bloodtipped:  I have a beautiful dress, that was quite the fashion – in the late 80’s. Laughing  No way would I expect my daughter to wear it.  Of course she says she could never fit in it, as the dress is very, very small.  But I suspect she wouldn’t want to wear it even if she was thinner!

Do your own thing!

Post # 56
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914 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

No, but I did wear my mom’s dress for Halloween one year. I was a zombie bride. And her dress was all yellow’ed and stained, so it worked well.

Post # 57
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3451 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree with the others.  Maybe you can alter it.  If not, I wouldn’t do it.

Post # 59
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154 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I was in the same situation but my mom was okay with me altering her dress. But the sleeves are her dress were twice as poofy as your mom’s! Like, they were full on spheres…Plus the fabric on her dress is really heavy and polyester/sateen or something I think…I really want something w/ chiffon or tulle, something light. 

 

ANYWAYS, your mom should understand. With wedding dresses, trends come and go and I think if you bought a dress with the idea of keeping it for your daughters, you should go w/ a very classic, traditional dress. I would certainly understand if my daughter didn’t want to wear my wedding dress. But really, she did get her chance to pick out a dress, so should you. You should tell her that you want to have that experience. Maybe you could put on her dress and take some nice pictures for her.

Post # 60
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945 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

You are a fantastic daughter, I have no suggestions as my mom does not care and frankly shes a skinny mini and I’m much bigger framed and several inches taller so it wouldn’t work out anyway, but I swear my mom has that exact dress. 

Post # 61
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Wow you are a great daughter. But your mother is totally off base. I honestly don’t get where that tradition started. I think you shouldn’t wear her dress because it’s completely different from the style you want. YOur mom got her day to wear her special dress and so should you, if it was your idea and you liked the dress it would be a different story. Your mom dress is very dated and it is unfair of her to expect that either one of your sisters or you to wear it. The fact that she won’t even let it be altered is asking to much. It’s been months since you posted but I hope you went wedding dress shopping.

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