(Closed) Would your best friend be at your wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

I sure hope she’ll be there, but god she’s flakey (I love her anyway), so I can’t count on it.

Think of what your friend means to you overall, is her not attending your wedding a symptom of a larger problem with her friendship toward you, or a flaw you can accept in an otherwise awesome friend?

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

One of my besties is planning to start TTC in the new year. So by the time I get married she will either be heavily pregnant or have a super young breastfeeding kiddo… Obviously logic tells me that no one should put their life on hold for my wedding and her being pregnant would be so awesome but honestly when she mentioned this to me today I got so sad and had a bit of an irrational moment.  My wedding will not be complete if she wasn’t there to celebrate with me 🙁

It’s always sad when our friends disappoint us, even if it’s unintentional… *hugs*

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

 

@meetmethere2013:  

1st I wouldnt be sending her the dress. You need to use it for the person who is acutally going to be in your wedding.

2nd, weddings seem to bring out the best and worst in friends. I think if she isnt going to come then, just be at peace with her decission. Do not let her ruin it for you 🙂

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I guess technically she may not even be able to fly if she’s due one month before your wedding.  I’d see if someone else you want in your wedding fits the dress or see about selling it to try to recoup the money you put out.

Sometimes you’re not supposed to be friends for life with people you met in grade school.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@meetmethere2013:  It doesn’t sound like she’s your best friend anymore.  People and circumstances change over so many years.  Like you said, if you guys met today, you wouldn’t be friends.  Maybe she inititally agreed to be in your wedding because she felt obligated considering the history of your friendship.  Sorry this happened to you, try to let it go and pick a new friend to be in your wedding.

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