Post # 1
Hopefully, no one is really with someone they think will eventually cheat on them, but it obviously happens. I always hear women say that their SO/DH/FI would never cheat, but then they’re constantly jealous of other women! I don’t think FI would ever cheat on me and I feel no reason to be jealous of other women around him. Would your FI/SO/DH ever cheat? If he already has, what made you decide to stay with him??
Post # 3
@Ninteenthchance: I used to have a lot of anxiety over my FI hanging out with other women alone for group projects and such when we were finishing highschool/ just begining college and it would drive him nuts. I didnt think he would cheat but that he would find someone better and leave me. I realized it was my insecurities with MYSELF that had me feeling that way – not a lack of trust for him! I started working on my self confidence and especially now that we are out of college and he has a career (I am in graduate school) I am much more comfortable with myself and find I dont really have those weird jealous feelings anymore. He is and always has been trustworthy and loyal and he is super shy and a homebody so really I truly believe he would never cheat. I too hope no one is with someone who they think would be running around on them!
Post # 4
Of course you can never actually know for sure, but I am 99% sure that he could/would not. Honesty and faithfulness are two of his defining features, and he is very open about his opinions on infidelity. He shows this through his actions as well – he purposefully doesn’t talk to women he’s attracted to unless there’s a reason for it because he thinks its disrespectful to our relationship to talk to someone just because she’s attractive. He is very open with his affection, and he tells like everyone he meets about me within the first few minutes of conversation. I also believe that if he did mess up and cheat, he would tell me immediately and probably try to make sure I broke up with him because he would feel so bad.
I don’t know how I would deal with that, but his personality would possibly make it easier for me to forgive him if I could get myself there. Given his words and actions, I know that him cheating would be an honest mistake that he 100% regretted and not him actively seeking it out. But I’m pretty sure/hoping that this will never be the case 🙂
Post # 5
I definitely feel worried about other women! My fi is extremely tall, handsome, and successful. There have been times in the past where women have been trying to make a move but he just hasn’t gotten it.
I know for sure he would never cheat. I could never say that about any other man I have ever dated before except for him. He has crazy insane amazing morals and cheating is about the worst thing you can do in his opinion.
Post # 6
There is no way anyone can know for sure. People change and sometimes they do things that surprise us (whether bad or good). Obviously we wouldn’t be with people who we think will cheat but nothing in life is guaranteed.
I think it’s dangerous to say someone would never cheat as it makes you complacent in the relationship and take it for granted. I prefer working at my relationship and keeping it strong rather than making impossible assumptions.
That’s just ME and what works for ME. I don’t expect everyone to agree.
Post # 7
I can’t imagine my husband EVER cheating. He is extremely loyal, he’d live unhappy and suck it up before he cheated. He’s been cheated on and I doubt he’d every feel it was ok to do that to someone else.
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2013 - A court...
I wouldn’t be with him if I thought he would, but then again no one thinks their SO would.
Post # 9
@Ninteenthchance: before I started dating my husband he used to get around. A lot! So he really didn’t feel the need to cling to one girl. He could have been a sexually active bachelor for a long time. However, he must have known I was the one because he gave up all the sexual freedom for me. He’s never cheated on me (to my knowledge) and I’ve never suspected it.
Post # 10
I really hope the Bee that voted “yes” he would cheat on me, never has to experience that.
I would never, ever imagine my SO cheating. He is way too kind of a person. The most honest, loyal person I have ever met. If we were ever in a bad place, I know he would try to break it off before he even thought about another woman.
Post # 11
I really can’t imagine him doing so. At least not sexually. He very much needs an emotional attachment for sex, so he wouldn’t just willy nilly sleep with someone (nor is it in his character to betray me). I suppose it is possible for him to develop that sort of emotional relationship with another woman if he let himself, so we both try to not put ourselves into situations where that can occur.
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church
I really like the way you said it. I trust DH 100% but I want to be the best person I can be for him, so that he never feels like he’s missing out. He gets hit on a lot, and I don’t want to just assume that because we’re married, he would never have feelings or desire to be with someone else because he’s not fulfilled with me.
Post # 13
@Ninteenthchance: My FI is the first guy I have ever been with that I have felt this way about- I know that he would never, ever even consider cheating on me. He doesn’t interact much with other women unless they are at work, his family, or one of his guy friends’ fiances/girlfriends/wives. Even then, he is always very gentlemanly and appropriate. I know that if he did at some point do something that made me feel uncomfortable, I could talk to him about it and he would stop.
Post # 14
If I believed he would, then I wouldnt have married him. But only he can be the one that decides what happens.
Post # 15
Nope. And I don’t get jealous… well occasional I’m jealous that that other people see him and I don’t get to, but that is just long distance. I’m not thinking anything is happening, just grumpy that all his classmates get to see his wonderful face daily and I get to see him every 3 months! 🙂
Post # 16
I think he’s a great guy and I hope he wouldn’t do such a thing but I can’t predict what happens in the next 50+ years. Anyone can cheat.