(Closed) Would your partner forgive you if YOU cheated?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would your partner forgive you if you cheated?
    Yes : (27 votes)
    24 %
    No : (65 votes)
    59 %
    I just don't know : (19 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 17
    Member
    2313 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Pretty sure that would be a no. Not that I blame him; I wouldn’t forgive him either. 

    Post # 18
    Member
    365 posts
    Helper bee

    I voted IDK, but I think it would be a hell no. His ex cheated on him with one of his friends, they worked it out, and then after 8 years, broke up with him for another guy. I just don’t think he could go through that twice. But it’s complicated when you love someone. So I think no, but am not positive. We both have said that that would be dealbreakers for us, but we have lived together for a year and a half and are getting married next year…I think it’s a lot easier to just leave when you are just dating and living seperately.

    Post # 19
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    7288 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    He would forgive but no longer be with ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 21
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    3871 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Before getting married, the answer would be no.  Now that we are married, I don’t know.  I think being married means we try to work through the good and the bad. Ugh, even if it includes cheating.   I personally wouldn’t be able to forgive myself if I did cheat. And I wouldn’t expect my husband to forgive me. He and I both know how we feel about cheating.

    Post # 22
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    4335 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    like yrret– before marriage, no. but after marriage…well, we’re in it for the long haul, and he knows it, so he’d have to forgive me! ๐Ÿ˜‰ 
    and I guess I would him.

    (but of course this situation would NEVER happen!)

    (also, I saw the title of this and was like, “good freakin grief, ANOTHER post about cheating?!” but it’s a good one!)

    Post # 24
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    5092 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think he might forgive me, because he is an amazing person with a good heart, but that doesn’t mean he’d stay with me. I think that would be hurting him too deeply. 

    Thank God, I don’t expect his to ever be more than a hypothetical.

    Post # 25
    Member
    3261 posts
    Sugar bee

    Yes, probably.

    Post # 26
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    2467 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    no i don’t think he would. one of his best friends broke up with his fiancee after she cheated last winter, so we had a lot of conversations about it/them then, and he was pretty clear that it would be a total dealbreaker for him. i think i’m more willing to see the gray areas, but he was pretty black and white about it

    Post # 28
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    2441 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Darling Husband has repeatedly told me, “No matter what, divorce is not an option.”  So, I’d definitely say yes, he would forgive me.  

    Post # 29
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    10285 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think it would be really hard and it would take a very long time for him to get over it but I do think he would forgive me. Now, could I forgive myself? Not likely. 

    Post # 30
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    376 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Fiance says it just depends on the situation… there are different scales. To him, a drunken one-night stand is different than what he called “a secret life,” in which I would build this elaborate web of lies in order to cheat on him… I think this is too complicated for a yes or no poll, so I chose “I just don’t know.”

    Post # 31
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    2522 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I don’t know.  We both have no idea and we would have to be in that situation to know.  However, I’m not certain how a person can rebuild trust after that. 

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