(Closed) Would you/should you invite your future SIL's to your bachelorette?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Would you/should you invite your future SIL's to your bachelorette?

    Yes, siblings on both sides should be invited to additional wedding events

    No, there's no obligation to do this and its not the norm

  • Post # 16
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    Bee Keeper

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    whitums :  I didn’t have a bachelorette but if I did I would have liked to invite my SIL, she’s awesome. But also had I had a bachelorette, it would have been low key…like drinks or something. One night no destination. I wouldn’t have pressured her to go, but I would extend the invite if she was in town (she lives out of state). Hope this helps! If you’re uncomfortable, just decline graciously. 

    Post # 17
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

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    whitums :  My Future Sister-In-Law is a co-MOH in my wedding so yes I am inviting her lol, the Bachelorette is being planned by my sis who is the other co-MOH. This Future Sister-In-Law is not FI’s sister but FI’s brother’s wife. If that makes any difference.  She and Future Mother-In-Law are throwing my Shower. 🙂

    Post # 18
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    Busy bee

    You didn’t have an option for it depends.  So I voted no.  I think it depends on your relationship.

    Post # 19
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    Sugar bee

    I think it depends on how close the SIL is to the bride. I barely know my BIL’s long-term Girlfriend (we live in different countries) and didn’t put her on the invite list for my bachelorette, and I would never expect her to put me on the invite list for hers when she marries my Brother-In-Law one day. She’s really sweet, but it would have been awkward given how little we know one another. If I had a Future Sister-In-Law who I was even somewhat close to, though, then yes. I don’t think it’s a requirement by any means. 

    Post # 20
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

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    whitums :  I invited my SILs because I love them. I didn’t invite my sister because she lives several states away, and even though she was my MoH, she’s still in college and can’t afford to visit.

    However, I didn’t invite anyone from out of state because everyone was already traveling out of state for our wedding.

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee

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    whitums :  for SIL’s wedding, I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man, so I was invited/expected to attend everything (and did happily). For my wedding she was my personal attendant. So not expected, but invited to everything. However, I don’t know if that’s the norm. We’re BFFs so her and Mother-In-Law (whom I love) were invited to everything.

    Post # 22
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    Helper bee

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    whitums :  I live in the US and would invite an adult Future Sister-In-Law to both the bridal shower and the bachelorette, and I have seen my friends invite adult FSILs both.

    I’d guess that you would most likely be invited to the bridal shower, but whether you’re invited to the bachelorette depends on a whole host of factors.

    Post # 23
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    I think it is so dependent on the relationship. I could see a SIL being invited to a shower if you’re not close, but not to the Bachelorette. 

    I adore my SIL, so I definitely invited her to my Bachelorette party. Was super happy to have her there. 

    Post # 25
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    Helper bee

    Is she a bridesmaid (most Future Sister-In-Law are)? If yes, she should be invited. If shes not and your not that close I dont think is a huge deal as often times bachelorettes can be just the bridal party. My one co-worker was telling me that her SIL invited her to the destination bachelorette party simply just to send out a courtsey invite, but pretty much invited her after all the plans were made (really not caring her opinion on date, length of trip, or if she could afford it). I guess if you want to invite her with the hopes she might not come, you could do that (I personally think is a bit rude), but its kinda like a B list invite. In terms of the shower, is she local? If yes, she should be invited, out of staters arent normally invited to showers.

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