(Closed) Would you/your SO be comfortable…(breastfeeding)

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Its only 2 hours….I dont see why there would be an absolute need to?

Just make sure you pump before, and after.  And if it gets uncomfy, deal with it. ONLY 2 HOURS. Remember lol

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@AnonBeeLee:  If the drive is 2 hours long, is there any way possible that you can pump right before getting into the car and immediately upon arrival to your destination?  I personally would be comfortable with it, and my fiance would be fine with it, however you need to talk with your co-worker to gauge his comfort level.  If you absolutely have to pump during the 2 hour drive, there are discreet breast pumps that you can wear under your clothing that might be suitable for these situations.  

http://www.amazon.com/Freemie-Hands-Free-Concealable-Breast-Collection/dp/B0031T3QNU/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top

 

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@AnonBeeLee:  Honestly, you have no idea whether your husband’s co-worker has a medical condition that requires she pump more frequently than most.  Personally, if I were her I wouldn’t want my co-worker to stop the car and wait outside while I pumped.  I feel like that would be more uncomfortable & inconvenient.  

Post # 21
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Now that you’ve given the story…

I’d definitely be like ew about it, but I don’t think it’s something to get really upset about it.  Did she ask your husband if it was okay?  I just think she’s a total weirdo if she didn’t ask or warn him and just started milking herself in front of him.  

A friend is one thing but a coworker – it’s just inappropriate and unprofessional for a work situation in my opinion.

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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@AnonBeeLee:  Ok. I personally could pump and drive, but would not personally pump and drive in front of a coworker.

 

WITH that said,

I can’t comment on her feeding schedule, she may have a baby that feeds all the time and her boobs might get filled up and it’s not a great feeling. Being engorged is awful, and hurts.

 

I think that as a woman, we can’t judge other women based on thier own needs, becuase it makes us uncomfortable.

Perhaps look at it from her perspective, she may not of been comfortable with it either, I mean who would do that unless it was a MUST, and I have to believe that is what happened…..it’s so out there, that no woman, would do that unless it was an emergency.

 

 

 

 

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@Sassygrn:  Me too. 

It is a strange situation, but if your husbands eyes are on the road and she’s being discreet, there’s probably very little accidental nudity to make either party uncomfortable . I don’t think my DH would be weirded out over it because he is a seasoned vet, but I bet it would make a younger guy without kids kind of uncomfortable. 

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Maybe she pumped in the car so she did not have to leave the seminar. She could possibly be comfortable in front of men if she has many men in her family. Also, she was kind enough to ask you H and I assume she was in the back of the van when she pumped not in the front seat all like “Here, can you hold this?” to him.

 

The thing that strikes me as beig off is hat it is okay (in your DH’s mind) for him to be present while a woman is BFing but it would not be okay for you to BF in front of a man. Double standard.

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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@AnonBeeLee:  yeah and that’s odd too, BUT she obviously pumped her boobs dry on the ride to the seminar SO she would not have to and could sit thorugh the whole thing, and not have to leave.  It makes more sense to me now.

I don’t think you’re being negative or mad at all. You just don’t understand. And please don’t think I’m angry either, it is what it is.

 

I was a BF’ing worker mom, and you wouldn’t believe the situations I had to live through when I pumped, just so I could be a worker mom. ON business trips, in gross public bathrooms, in public places, under desks, not kidding. I couldn’t miss anything for an excuse of “I had to pump” or “my kids” becuase the minute I did that, the men (I worked for an all male company) would talk all types of shit “I wish I could skip out on the meeting to go sit and pump”. 

This girl is a hard worker mom in my mind no doubt about it.

She could just say I don’t want to make him uncomfortable so I will suffer with engorgement, and leaking…and then sit thorugh 6 hours of a lecture becuase I can’t leave becuase it’s important I be there with the rest of them.  BUt instead…

no matter how uncomfortable and weird it was for her to have to be in her situation and pump in a car (not fun) while your male coworker is there…  she did what she had to do.

 

It’s really hard.

And as a BF’ing worker mom you have to do this, to appear like you can handle it and it’s not a big deal just to keep up, just to HANG with the rest of your coworker men who have never been in a situation like you.

 

Post # 28
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yah with that story I change my answer.

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

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@AnonBeeLee:  I think the issue here is that you feel there is some sexual connection to breast feeding (pumping).  For me, I’d have no prob with my husband being a car with a pumping woman.  He would think it wierd, but I’d actually encourage it because I want him to feel that BFing is normal and get comfortable with the idea.

If I needed to pump in a car with someone I’m not close with, I’d sit in the back seat behind the driver to be more discreet about it.  At least she asked if he’d be ok with it before she started.

I understand that not everyone is comfortable with public breastfeeding though.  Just giving my feelings on the matter.

Post # 30
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I don’t see what the big deal is. You can pump covered. As for stopping the car and stepping out… Pumping takes like 25 minutes… That’s a long stop, and doing it in the car is a good use of her time. 

Post # 31
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I would think it’s a bit weird. If you wanted to feed your kid, and you sat in the back seat whilst your co-worker drove, then sure. That’s not weird at all. But using a mechanical device on an intimate body part whilst some guy is sat next to you in the car… I just think that’s way “TMI”… in the same way that I think topless 50+ women on public beaches is too much… or men in Borat style mankinis are gross… more power to ya, but I don’t want to see it!

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