(Closed) Would/Do you pay your mother/MIL for childcare?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Would/Do you pay your mother/MIL to care for your baby?
    Yes : (30 votes)
    18 %
    No : (30 votes)
    18 %
    Yes, theres no question. It's work to care for a baby : (80 votes)
    47 %
    No, I don't feel you should pay family : (30 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    909 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Yes, there’s no question. Unless my mom or Mother-In-Law was so well off that it would be a joke to pay them, I would definitely pay them.

    My Future Mother-In-Law takes care of my FSIL’s son, and they pay her. It sets up the situation more like a job, I think, which is better all around so no one becomes resentful or feels taken advantage of. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    687 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    I would def pay my mother, if she specifically turned down the money, that’s a different thing. But I believe taking care of a child is work too, specially since you will have her that much, and the fuel you need to pay to get to her house will cost too. I understand she is your granddaughter, but you will be pretty much occupied with this for a while and they should pay. Hope it goes well!

    Post # 5
    Member
    1294 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Hey there! 

    I have a 6 month old daughter. I agree, it is a full-time job caring for a baby. I have since quit my job but my mother-in-law was eager and willing to watch her while I went to work. I would pay her whatever she asked for in a heartbeat, but she wouldn’t hear of it. 

    She laughed at me when I offered to pay for childcare and supply her diapers/food…

    There is no right or wrong, and I wouldn’t hesitate to pay 🙂 

    Hope that helps!

    Post # 6
    Member
    3583 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think $50 is a screaming deal and they would be quite the Scrooge not to pay you that. Free sitting to me arethe occasional weekend visits. This is more like a job.

    Post # 7
    Member
    939 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I dont have kids but I about 90% sure my mother would look at me like I am crazy if I offered to pay her.  But thats just how my family is. I know other families who are opposite and would think it was crazy not to get paid.  you said you were watching the baby at your sons house…is that a far drive? if so then maybe ask for enough to cover gas for a week.

    Post # 9
    Member
    1934 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I guess I’m the only one on the other side of the coin.  

    I personally don’t think you should pay for family (however, that greatly varies in certain situations).  My mom is not particularly well off, but she’s not struggling either.  She has offered to watch the baby when he/she comes next year and I go back to work.  She doesn’t expect to get paid to watch her own grandbaby, and I wouldn’t expect to pay her.  She didn’t pay my grandmother when she watched me either.

    I do plan to pay for the babies needs – diapers, food, etc, and any activities they do, but other than that, nope.

    Post # 10
    Member
    981 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My mom is going to be watching my baby once he arrives and I finish my maternity leave. We haven’t discussed payment, but honestly $50 a week is hardly payment – it’s covering your gas money! I figured at the very least I would be paying for my mom’s metrocard and making sure the house was stocked with groceries so she wouldn’t have to spend money while she’s over.

    Post # 11
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    2849 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    4 days a week is a lot of time to watch your grandchild. I would definitely expect to get compensated if I were you. I think $50 is on the low end, so they should not feel that is unreasonable. I wouldn’t watch the child for free.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1934 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I actually just asked my mom about it and she said she’d never ask for money to take care of her grandkids….cause if anything should happen to her in old age and I have to watch her – she’d have to pay me!  Lol.  

    Post # 14
    Member
    1660 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @Ill Be Mrs B:  I think it’s totally fine, especially that amount. I would prefer to have my Mother-In-Law watch my baby over daycare (if that was an option), and I’d even be willing to pay her the same amount – though I admit that if she asked for that amount ($300 per week) I’d be kind of annoyed (it IS her grandbaby after all). However, $50 is a completely different story… it’s basically covering your gas and not a whole lot more. I’d be 100% okay with that and I’d offer at least as much.

    Post # 15
    Member
    1963 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    When my brother and I were little, my Grandma (my Mom’s Mom) watched us and my Mom did pay her.  It wasn’t a ton of money, but at least enough to cover snacks, some gas after picking  us up from school, and then a little left over.

    Post # 16
    Member
    873 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I will probably be in the position where my mom will watch my (hypothetical) baby while I do some business travel.  She’d look at me like I was crazy if I offered to pay her.  But that’s us.  

    I’m not sure why you can’t so other things while watching the baby though?  SAHM’s do all the time.

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