Post # 1
We’ve just gotten back from meeting with a jeweller regarding getting a ring custom made. I like Tacori designs and was hoping to replicate something similar, however most of my ideas have been squashed somewhat. His points were:
I should have six prongs instead of four incase one gets knocked and the diamond is lost – do you ladies agree with this, or is it overkill?
I should scrap diamonds and detailing on the inside as it will rub against the wedding band and deteriorate or the diamonds will come loose
Platinum will darken and dull after a few years and is a lot softer than gold
Also, the hand making of the ring will be A LOT more than if my partner and I were to just order a setting online/from overseas. Can anyone vouch for hand made being worth the extra dollars?
Feeling a bit disheartened
Post # 3
I can’t answer your questions directly, but here’s a little bit of advice: my ring was custom as wel, but it was based on an existing design. I think it’s much cheaper to modify an existing design than to get an entirely new one.
Post # 4
It depends on the jeweler. The problem with artisans is they assume you came to them for their opinion without checking. My jeweler prefers Platinum because it’s stronger and it’s a zero loss metal unlike Gold which thins with polishing and wear. Some people like the matte patina but if you don’t you can polish it again and far less frequently than gold needs redipping.
Six prongs are safer but plenty of respected companies use four, besides, you’ll probably insure it anyway. The point of a custom jeweler is to get what you want!
Post # 5
@Vikstar: My ring is being custom designed and the extra cost was worth it for me because we spent weeks searching and couldnt find anything close to what I wanted. What type of setting and center stone shape do you want? I would google each one of those recommendations (or do a specific search for them on WB) then take your research to another jeweler to get a second quote on the same design and ask them their opinion on these things. This is exactly what I did and I’m happy with the result. I was originally told I needed a 6 prong but I researched it and decided it wasn’t worth the extra cost or even necessary since I was getting a halo. Sorry I couldnt be more help with some of your other questions.
Post # 6
Don’t be disheartened, designing the ring of your dreams should be happy times!
Have you spoken to another jeweller? As Anardana said the whole point of a custom ring is to get exactly what you want. Perhaps if you do speak tosomeone else, they would be happy to accommodate.
I ordered a beautiful diamond online and had the stone set in a ring I chose at a local jeweller. The ring was not custom designed but was exactly what I was looking for and substantially cheaper as the jeweller did not have to make it from scratch. Is this another possible option for you? The benefit is that you get to try on the ring on before it is customized to ensure that it looks perfect on your hand. And I saved a lot by buying the diamond online from James Allen (who show excellent magnified images of each diamond they have to sell).
My opinion on the prong: six is safer but I think prettier too! I’m biased of course because my ring has 6 prongs
Post # 7
On the number of prongs, I agree with your jeweler and PP. 2 of the prongs in my 6 prong setting have clearly been knocked out of place and if there were only 4 prongs my stone may be gone. I also personally prefer 6 prongs with a round stone, as 4 prongs tend to make the stone look square.
Post # 8
The jeweler is correct about all of that. Can’t tell you if hand detailing is worth it though since I do not have experience in that.
6 prongs is definitely safer than 4, platinum does patina, and as someone who has diamonds on the side (and rings in platinum)…worrying about your rings rubbing and diamonds falling out is not fun. I wish our jeweler had warned Darling Husband about this when he was designing my ring. I get my rings checked every 6 months to make sure they aren’t being worn down too much and nothing is loose. So far so good, but I do plan on getting a spacer ring if it becomes an issue.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
It sounds like this jeweler is not a good fit for you. They are trying to fit you into their mold rather than molding themselves to meet your needs. not good business practice. I would set up appointments with 2 other independent (not big chain) jewelers to see what they have to say.
FWIW, my ring (palladium 6 prong with a larger center stone and 2 smaller side diamonds) cost us less than the cost of my center stone alone on Blue Nile. So no, ordering online is not always cheaper than going custom. You just have to find the right jeweler.
Post # 10
Most jewelers that do custom work prefer to work in platinum. In fact, some will ONLY work in platinum. I would be a little suspicious about this guy.
Platinum will patina and dull, but all you need to do is send it in to be polished and it looks good as new, no metal loss! Some people actually prefer the look of the patina.
Post # 11
As PPs have said, your jeweler is correct with his points, but whether or not those things bother you is a different story. A major point with the platinum is the softening, especially if you are getting side-detail work done or having stones built into the ring. My ering is platinum (I love it, and the patina), but within weeks of having it, it had completely lost it’s round shape and had a more square shape that fit my finger shape. I had it banged back into shape a month ago, and it’s starting to shift again. It’s less of a concern for me since i don’t have any stones set into the sides, but I would be concerned about the softening being an issue if you did.
Post # 12
@Vikstar: Custom made can be expensive, but it shouldn’t be confusing. As others have said, try another jeweler. Trust your instincts with a purchase this important.