Post # 1
So everything was going ok as far as wedding planning goes, a little stress and deadlines, but nothing crazy…until this weekend when everything blew up in my face.
THURSDAY: mechanic told me my car was unsafe and I needed to get a new one IMMEDIATELY, grrr.
FRIDAY: went for my first dress fitting, besides that not going well and a rude seamstress, I need to buy a new underthing because mine is 2 inches higher than the back of my dress. I went to the “specialty” lingerie shop in my city where I purchased it, they only carry that one style of bustier, and won’t give me my money back (even with my receipt they’ll only give me a store credit, but I can’t afford the $120 extra right now). They said that what I need doesn’t exist because I’m an unusal bra size. wtf? wow, I must really be a freak of nature.
SATURDAY: spent hours typing in address labels, invite, RSVP, directions wording for diy invitation kit purchased by my sister-in-law (Brides brand at Michael’s, NOT recommended). After spending my entire day doing that, I open the box to start printing only to find that both boxes of invites have a manufacturer printing error on the outside of the pocket fold that is super noticeable and not fixable at all (super large ‘extra postage required’ stamp upside down and transposed to lower left corner instead of upper right and the invite is cut so that you can’t just flip it around to put the stamp in the correct position). Back to square one with absolutely no budget (SIL said she was purchasing our invites as a gift last year, then was super pushy about getting ones that cost $37 for 60… get what you pay for I guess…) Any suggestions on this would be appreciated by the way, I’ve trolled around a ton of diy kit websites, but they’re all still pretty expensive ($200-300, expensive to me anyways cause I don’t have the extra cash) And by the way, the invites need to be mailed by November 18th.
SUNDAY: at mass the priest who was supposed to marry us has just received a date for his hip surgery…you guessed it…2 days before our wedding. My fiance and 3/4 of our guest (including his entire family) are not Catholic and the other priest at my church always makes derisive comments about ‘non-Catholics’, so much so that I even stopped going to church on the Sundays when he says mass.
I am now in full blown overload mode. It was all going so well, oh and PS- all 4 bridesmaid dresses have been in for about a month and not one bridesmaid has picked theirs up from the shop. I know that one isn’t a big deal, but I’m worried that the shop will send them back if no one comes to get them.
Post # 3
I’m sorry 🙁 We all have weeks like this. I know it sucks, but look at it like this; things can only get better.
Post # 4
Oh My! I’m amazed that you are still functioning enough to document a week like that.
You have my empathy.
I’m not sure I understand correctly the issue with the invitations, but would it be possible to put the stamp in the correct corner and use a coordinating sticker in the opposite corner?
Post # 5
I am sorry you had such a bad weekend.
Michaels is really good with returns so I would take the invites back. I actually had great success with BRIDE’s DIY invites from Michaels so don’t write them off just yet! Just check the boxes before you purchase them!
Here is a thread about Bee’s using BRIDES invites.
Post # 6
@dhmay: Ugh, I hate weeks like that when every little thing goes wrong! Can you take the invites back to Michaels and show them the error? Or call the company…maybe they can fix the problem?
Good luck! Things are bound to get better soon!
Post # 7
I did my invitations myself and just bought the pieces online at bluedot paper and LCI. It was work, but I bought the pocketfolds and then got cardstock and cut it myself with a large slicer.
don’t worry, everything will ed up coming together, plus its better to get these things worked out now instead of right before the wedding.
Post # 8
Thanks for all the nice thoughts, I checked out the thread about the BRIDES invitations and I guess I’m the only one that has had an issue. Maybe if I return them to a different Michael’s store I’ll have a better chance of getting ones that aren’t messed up.
Post # 9
i’m sorry that so many things are going badly at once! on the bustier, a seamstress may be able to alter yours so it doesn’t go higher than the dress. that would, i would think, cost less than a new bustier….good luck!
Post # 10
Oh no, what an awful week!
We did the BRIDES invitations from Michael’s, and they turned out great. They are $40 for 40, but I bought them all with coupons, so I got them for about $25 a kit. Sign up on their website and they will email you coupons. Vistaprint is another good option for low cost invitations.
Our bridesmaids dresses were in for about a month before anyone made the trip to pick them up. Also, they have been in since JUNE and one bridesmaid STILL hasn’t picked it up/paid it off. Did I mention the wedding is next month!? LOL. Oh well, sometimes you have to pick your battles.
I hope the week gets better for you very soon!
Post # 11
Just a thought about the bra issue…can you cut it? If it has hook and eye closeures all the way up you might be able to just cut a scoop out of the back with nice sharp sewing scissors. If the material looks like it will fray you can use that fray stopper glue along the edge or maybe use some of that soft fashion tape and fold it over the edge.
Post # 12
That does make me feel better, if bridesmaids waiting that long is normal I’m sure I have nothing to worry about on that front.
I am a little scared to cut into the bustier myself, it is made of lace and has boning in it, but I’ll definitely bring it to a different seamstress to see what we can do. It’s worth a try right?
Post # 13
If it helps, we got our DIY invites from Staples. I don’t remember the brand off hand, but it was $30 for 50 and we love ’em. What about having the seamstress sew some…um…support into your dress?
Post # 14
I will for sure check out staples.
The seamstress that I’m working with said that she can’t sew enough support into my dress, I’m a 32 F
Post # 15
awww I’m sorry for the awful weekend!! I’m sure you’ll find a way to overcome everything. Just think: life has a way of balancing itself out, which means that sometime soon, when you’re expecting a pretty crappy, awful, or boring weekend, it’ll actually turn out to be AMAZING!!!
Also, wanted to say that I can totally empathize about the priest thing. I’m in the same situation: I’m Catholic, Fiance (plus most of the guests) isn’t. I’ve had such bad experiences in the past with ‘mean priests’ who have a superiority complex. I’m so thankful to have found my priest, who is absolutely AMAZING, and so inclusive, and I absolutely love him. I know that like you, I’d be so bummed if he couldn’t be the one doing the ceremony, . *huge hugs*
I’m sending good vibes your way – I’m sure there’s a good solution to all these problems, and everything will work out better than you thought it would!
Post # 16
Might not be perfect but:
Thursday: The car stinks but between borrowing cars, sharing cars, fixing it for a bit, leasing a new one, I’m sure something will work out.
Friday: Order a bra is your size online – sometimes in a strapless bra, a smaller size might work like Goddess makes size 32DDD. Take the store credit, you will need bras one day or maybe someone you know can give you cash and use some new bras.
Saturday: Go to Michaels and nicely ask to speak to a manager and show them the problem. They are pretty good.
Sunday: Ask your preist if he can talk to the other preist or talk to him yourself about how important it is that nobody is offended.