Post # 1
So, I had a shower about a week ago, and I’m still in the process of writing thank you notes. A friend of my mom came to the shower and got us a nice gift, so of course I’m going to write you a thank you note.
Today, I went to my friend’s house/my old house, and we had a package there. It turns out it was a more elaborate gift from the same friend of my mom. It seems like maybe it’s a wedding present, and she sent it because she’s not coming to the wedding possibly.
So, I don’t know if I should send two individual cards, or one thank you card acknowledging both gifts. Any thoughts on what would be proper?
Post # 3
I’m not sure what would truely be proper, but I would write two separate cards.
Post # 4
Hmm I would agree that it sounds like its an early wedding gift, but I would write one note and thank her for both gifts, also letting her know you appreciate her for being there for you.. etc. If you know she won’t be at the wedding then you wouldn’t be sending her a thank you for the wedding anyways.
Post # 5
I would write two just to be safe. Did the second gift include a card indicating if it is a wedding gift?
Post # 7
I would only send one. I would be a little like, “really?” if I received two separate cards from the same person within a few days of each other!
Post # 9
I would write one now for the present you received at the shower and then another when you actually receive the gift waiting for you at your friends (after the wedding, since its the wedding gift).
Post # 11
I agree 100% with. @Koala Bear. That is exactly how I would suggest to handle the situation. If the second gift is probably a wedding gift, then I would send the “thank you” for that one with the other wedding thank you notes, and the shower thank you with the other shower thank you notes.
Post # 12
Thanks everyone for your thoughts.
We actually picked up what I’m thinking is the wedding gift yesterday–that’s how I knew about it. Honestly, if I hadn’t seen her it may have been sitting there for quite a few weeks not being known about. There was a congratulations card though it didn’t SPECIFICALLY indicate it as a wedding gift…that was just my guess.
So…if I DO write two cards, would I send them both at the same time? I don’t want either gift to go unacknowedged for too long.
Post # 13
@judithsr: I would send two cards. Get one for the shower out in the mail tomorrow morning. Write the thank you for the “wedding gift” within the next week and a half/two weeks.
Be sure to write thank you notes for wedding gifts as you receive them, rather than all at once after the wedding. That way the gift giver knows that the gift was received. (Of course, gifts received in the days before the wedding are the exception to this, although those notes should be written first after the wedding.)