Post # 1
I know many here have expressed disapointment when getting declines back in their RSVPs with no reason indiciated. I have to send a decline in to a wedding, and I don’t want to send it blank, as we are close, and I would have loved to have attended. I am just wondering where it is appropriate to write a little note. Can I put something on the back of the card or should I enclose a piece of paper?
We’ll be sending a card and gift when it is closer to the wedding date, but I do want to address our absence now as well instead of just checking a box.
Post # 2
We had a lot of people write notes on the back of the RSVP cards (all of which I kept).
I appreciated the notes (I think everyone who declined included one).
Post # 3
We also had several people do this, and thought it was nice.
Post # 4
Whatever works for you! All our declines either wrote on the rsvp card or sent an email explaining their situation. That is, the ones that sent in their rsvps. 🙂 I thought it was sweet.
Post # 5
I usually write a little note on the front of the RSVP if there is room or make a little arrow to the back (so they know to flip it over) and write it there.
Post # 6
I had people both write notes on the back of the RSVP as well as just send me a note via email/text/facebook. If you are close and talk often no need to be so formal about it – you can just use the normal way you comminucate as well as or instead of a note
Post # 7
I definitely apprecaited the notes. It made us understand why they couldn’t attend and showed that they were remorseful. So many people wrote notes that when we started getting declines without a reason we were taken aback for a quick second lol. It’s not required by any means but it’s a really nice gesture.
Post # 8
A note wishing the couple well and wishing you could be there is appropriate. Contrary to belief, you are not, in fact, obligated to give a reason, which may be quite personal or none of anyone’s business. But there are times when you might want to in any case. If you wanted to go the really traditional route, you would write a note on your own stationery, as reply cards are considered a crutch. In practice most people will use the reply cards and include a note on the back or separately.
Post # 9
Thanks for all the replies. I’ll likely just write on the back of the card, since I don’t have any fancy stationary to include anyhow. I just didn’t want it to look cheesy if that wasn’t a normal thing to do. Looks like its pretty common though!