Post # 1
We’re having photo thank you cards made up to send out. There is one person (a long term aquaintance of DH’s extended family) who gave us a card and bottle of wine. It was a nice gesture but she wasn’t an invited guest. Obviously we should thank her, but is it awkward/ rude to send her the same photo thank you card we’re making up to give out to all of our guests when it’s a picture from an event she wasn’t invited to? Should I buy an off the rack thank you card instead and simply thank her for the wine and her thoughtfulness?
Post # 2
I can see your hesitation, but I think since she knew you were having a wedding, and she (presumably) knew she was not invited, and she still chose to get you a gift for said wedding, then it’s fine to send her the thank you card with the picture. Obviously she cared about the wedding regardless of invitation. She might like to see pics. 🙂
Post # 3
yes, just send her a different card
Post # 4
Just buy a different card for her! I had a few coworkers and other family acquaintances who gave us gifts, but weren’t guests at our wedding – we just bought a pack of generic “thank you” cards and wrote them individual messages.
Post # 5
- Wedding: The Retreat at Bradley\'s Pond
We had about 6 people/families who graciously sent us gifts (1 neighbor and sevearl coworkers- we simply couldn’t afford them all). They’ll just be happy to receive a card at all. We ended up using our thank you notes that we shared with everyone. But those included a small engagement photo on it instead. The reasoning was I needed shower cards several months earlier and just bought them in bulk for everything. Doesn’t matter what you give them! 🙂
Post # 6
Just use the thank you cards from your wedding, she is acknoweldging your union and that’s why she sent a gift, I’m sure it’d be worse for her to see others got wedding picture thank you’s and she received a generic store card (I realized some people will display thank cards similar to save the dates on the fridge).
Post # 7
My 2 former work supervisors/mentors went in on a gift for us even though we didn’t invite them. I see them maybe once a year and I didn’t want them to feel obligated, plus they knew I was getting married and that we were having a smallish wedding.
Anyway, I sent them the standard thank you card with our wedding photos on it, and thanked them for thinking of us and being so generous. I think that is perfectly acceptable.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone for the input- I was fence sitting on this one, but prinzesschen :
‘s comment that some people display such things on their fridge (we do, I have a handful of STDs & thank you cards on there right now) made me decide to give her the same photo thank you card as others, just in case she sees our photo card on someone else’s fridge and hers is a diff generic one.