(Closed) Writing a thank you card to someone who wasn't invited to the wedding

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

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RobbieAndJuliahaha :  I can see your hesitation, but I think since she knew you were having a wedding, and she (presumably) knew she was not invited, and she still chose to get you a gift for said wedding, then it’s fine to send her the thank you card with the picture. Obviously she cared about the wedding regardless of invitation. She might like to see pics. 🙂

 

Post # 4
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1189 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Just buy a different card for her! I had a few coworkers and other family acquaintances who gave us gifts, but weren’t guests at our wedding – we just bought a pack of generic “thank you” cards and wrote them individual messages.

Post # 5
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1009 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: The Retreat at Bradley\'s Pond

We had about 6 people/families who graciously sent us gifts (1 neighbor and sevearl coworkers- we simply couldn’t afford them all). They’ll just be happy to receive a card at all. We ended up using our thank you notes that we shared with everyone. But those included a small engagement photo on it instead. The reasoning was I needed shower cards several months earlier and just bought them in bulk for everything. Doesn’t matter what you give them! 🙂

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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RobbieAndJuliahaha :  Just use the thank you cards from your wedding, she is acknoweldging your union and that’s why she sent a gift, I’m sure it’d be worse for her to see others got wedding picture thank you’s and she received a generic store card (I realized some people will display thank cards similar to save the dates on the fridge).

Post # 7
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994 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

My 2 former work supervisors/mentors went in on a gift for us even though we didn’t invite them. I see them maybe once a year and I didn’t want them to feel obligated, plus they knew I was getting married and that we were having a smallish wedding.

Anyway, I sent them the standard thank you card with our wedding photos on it, and thanked them for thinking of us and being so generous. I think that is perfectly acceptable.

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