(Closed) Writing “Esquire” on Invitations?

posted 9 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Blushing bee

i’m an attorney and would find it a bit pretentious.  but if you do want to add that sort of formality you have to make sure to extend it to your guess, which could become tons of work.  Dr., PhD, etc.  

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

i’m an attorney also and i think that’s a bit pretentious for me (actually a lot), but hey if it works for other people the most i can do is giggle a little bit.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m not an attorney, but I would find that pretentious if I received it in the mail!  To me, that’s like me putting John Doe, PharmD on ours for my fiance’s doctor of pharmacy degree…lame-o!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

My fiance and I are both lawyers and there is NO WAY we would put that on an invitation!  Ha ha!  Lawyers have such bad reps that we try to avoid telling people what we do!  Just kidding!  Maybe they’re both just really proud of that degree…or they really feel like it defines who they are as people.  To each their own, but personally I’m still in denial that I’m a lawyer.   

Post # 8
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Worker bee

Esquire on the invitations? Is that the rule? At my firm, we never use esquire, and I think it would be weird to do so on the invitations. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Wait, So it should be:

Mr. Chucky Cheese Esquire  …   …. ???  That’s how you address a lawyer? Hmm, never knew that. 

I have some lawyers in the family and some invited, should I put that? I’ve never heard that in my life. 

I know it is Dr. and Mrs. Chucky Cheese …. never heard of Esquire.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I’m not sure it’s your place to tell her.  It’s her invitation and she can do what she wants.  If it comes up in conversation or if she specially asks you, you could say something like "I’ve never seen that done before" or "Do you use the Esquire title a lot?  It’s so formal."  Or something that brings it up without sounding like you’re passing judgment.  I don’t know…that’s a tough one.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Maybe you could steer her in the direction of this page!   

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I wouldn’t tell her not to do it, but also I wouldn’t use it on your own invitations.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

I think it’s a teeny bit pretentious to have on an invitation, but I don’t know the best way to address this with your friend.  I have seen people listed as "Doctor So-and-so" on invitations before and I guess this is technically correct as the legal equivalent.  My sister is an attorney and I asked her–she also thought it was a little pretentious.  I did address her invite to "Sister, Esquire" because I know she likes it.  Although I do think it’s a bit different if you’re addressing something to someone and listing your own name on the invitation.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Oh my goodness… no, no, never, never!

Perhaps if she asks about how you are addressing your invites then you could throw it in there that you are omitting "Esq." due to your personal preference?

Haha my Fiance is a lawyer too & it sounds like its common for a lot of lawyers to be "anti-attorney". I understand that she is proud of her accomplishments, but I’m sure everyone who knows her already knows of her hard work & title!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would maybe point out that it seems a bit strange to you, given that you rarely see invitations with things like August Bride, PhD or August Bride, MD. Putting it in perspective like that may help her make a more informed decision.

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