(Closed) Writing our entire ceremony – why is this SO hard?!

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
10287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I know what you mean. We wrote our whole ceremony and it was a total bitch. As it stands right now our ceremony will last about 5 minutes. I think the processional may take longer, lol.

Post # 5
2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We wrote ours as well and it was a total PITA, but I am SO thrilled with the way it came out. Took hard work and a lot of research (to figure out all the ‘legal’ things you actually have to say) but it was well worth it. Here’s our order of events for our outdoor ceremony – hope this helps!



Sand Ceremony

Hand Ceremony

Declaration of Intent


Exchange Of Rings


Declaration of Marriage/Pronouncement



Post # 7
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Here is the order of the ceremony we did…

Gathering Words

Acknowledgement of Family and Friends

Remembrances and Acknowledgments

Marriage Address

Group Declaration of Support

Marriage Statement of Intent/Consent


Ring Exchange



ETA: I know it seems like a lot but our ceremony was 15 minutes tops including processional

Post # 8
5797 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Not to threadjack, but does the sand ceremony go before or after the vows? Right now we’re doing

Gathering Words

Officiant will speak



Ring exchange

Sand ceremony




Post # 9
2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@LGenz: The way ours is worded, we wanted it to go beforehand. It made more sense for our ceremony that way, and I also didn’t want a break between vows, rings, and our pronouncement. Traditionally it is done the way you have it, but I am not really traditional!

Post # 10
3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@UpstateCait: lol, sounds like the one our officient is doing.  Of course, I also told him if it was longer than 15 minutes, my FI’s sword would be coming out… and be used. πŸ˜‰  Of course, we also are gonna have lots of people with kids and several with babies.


Sorry I’m no help. πŸ™  Good luck on getting it written!!!!!

Post # 12
4 posts
  • Wedding: April 2012


I am also in the process of trying to write our entire ceremony. The best resource I’ve found so far is a book called :

The Wedding Ceremony Planner by Judith Johnson.

It has all kinds of suggested texts for every part of the wedding ceremony. If you’re cheap like me and don’t want to buy the book, just go into a Barnes and Noble with a pad of paper and pen, snuggle up with a coffee, and start writing down some of your favorite parts from the book! Good luck!

Post # 13
817 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I wrote my entire thing too…like a few months ago! πŸ™‚ I just did a ton of googling. I’m really happy with it though! Here’s basically what mine looks like:

Pre-ceremony: Groomsmen act as ushers

Prelude: Moms light unity candles. Groomsmen line up at front, reverse height order.

Processional: Each Bridesmaid or Best Man walks down aisle by herself, meets up with groomsman who helps walk her up the stairs into the gazebo and they line up inside. Flower girl walks. Ringbearer pulls baby down aisle in wagon. Bride and father walk and meet with groom and officiant at bottom of stair.

Presentation of the Bride: Who offers their blessing for the union of ___ and ___? (Dad gives blessing and sits)

Officiant’s welcome: It is one of life’s greatest miracles when two people love each other so much, they are willing to commit their lives together as one in spirit.  The ability to love is a miraculous gift, and a wedding is a celebration of that gift.  Today, we have been invited to share and to rejoice with ___and __, and to vow our unconditional love and support to them as they begin their journey as husband and wife.

and ____ would like to recognize their family members and to thank them for their love, support and devotion, as they grew from adolescence and into the two beautiful individuals who stand here before us today. At this time, we also honor those people who are not able to be with us in person today, but are here in spirit.  let us remember them with a moment of silent reflection.  (Pause.) We are a part of everyone who has ever loved us; __ and ___ thank their families for teaching them values, and showing them the beauty and joy of loving another person.  ___ and ___ would like to offer thanks to each of their parents for their love and support.

We will now have a reading from author Frederick Buechner from the ABC’s of Faith, read by the groom’s sister-in-law, ___: 

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