(Closed) Writing our own ceremony. Could use some inspiration…

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 4
265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@UpstateCait: I did! Here are some good parts: 

We are gathered at this place to witness the formal joining of this man and woman in the legal state of matrimony.

Jillbean and Jillbean’s Fiance, you have come together for many reasons. You have decided that being together will enrich your lives. You have decided that whatever challenges may lie ahead for you, they can be met more easily with your shared love for each other. You know that your joy will be enhanced because of your commitment to each other.

You are now taking into your care and keeping the welfare and happiness of the one person, in all the world, whom you love best. You are agreeing to be a light and strength to each other.

Marriage is more than just an acknowledgement of existing love or an expression of hope that love will last. In marriage, people exercise their uniquely human power to shape their world according to their will. Two people may come together and come to love each other by chance. But when they marry, every day thereafter they make and act on the choice to stay together and continue to love one another.

Marriage is therefore not to be entered upon thoughtlessly or irresponsibly, but with a due and serious understanding and appreciation of the ends for which it is undertaken. It is into this high and serious state that these two persons desire to unite. 

(Sources: Mrs Ant, BC civil ceremony)

Jillbean and Jillbean’s Fiance, in the words of Robert Fulghum, “You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes, to this moment of yes, you have been making commitments in an informal way. All of those conversations that were held in a car, or over a meal, or during long walks – all those conversations that began with, “When we’re married”, and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will” – all those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.


The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things that we’ve promised, and hoped, and dreamed – well, I meant it all, every word.”

Shortly you shall say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and things between you will never quite be the same.

For after today you shall say to the world – This is my husband. This is my wife.”

I ask you to give answer to these questions.

(sources: The Union, BC Civil Ceremony)

“I dos”

Do you, Jillbean’s Fiance, undertake to afford to Jillbean the love of your person, the comfort of your companionship, and the patience of your understanding; to respect and honour her, to share with her your joys and sorrow; to stand for her as a pillar of support and shoulder of strength; and to cherish and care for her for all the days of your life?

(scattered sources)


I call on those present to witness that I, Jillbean’s Fiance take Jillbean to be my lawful wedded wife to have and to hold, from this day forward, in whatever circumstance or experience life may hold for us.

(source: BC civil ceremony, self)


Jillbean’s Fiance and Jillbean, you have committed yourselves to each other in marriage by the exchanging of vows, and by the giving of rings. Now upon the authority vested in me by the Province of British Columbia, I pronounce you husband and wife.

You may now kiss each other.

I present to you the newly-married couple, Jillbean and Jillbean’s Fiance. 


Post # 5
265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Sorry for the weird fonts, I was copy and pasting!

Post # 6
1166 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@UpstateCait: If you send me your email address in a PM, I can send you our ceremony plus a document with some scripts I compiled from various websites…

Post # 8
1643 posts
Bumble bee

Um…this is totally cheesy, and I heard it on The Tudors, but I LOVED it.

“With this ring I thee wed, and with my body I thee worship.”


Post # 9
14492 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Have you checked out the hand ceremony?  I find it totally sweet.

_____&_____, Please face each other and take each other’s hands, so that you may see the gift that they are to you.

These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow and forever.

These are the hands that will work along side yours as together you build your future.

These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch will comfort you like no other.

These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief temporarily comes your way.


These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes, tears of sorrow and tears of joy.

These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.

These are the hands that will give you support and encouragement to chase down your dreams.

These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times.

These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.

These are the hands that will lift your chin and brush your cheek as they raise your face to look into eyes that are filled with overwhelming love for you.

And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.

Post # 10
629 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Tksjewlry~ Wow! I love the hand ceremony idea! I may have to use it! Thank you!

Post # 11
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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OMG, I am in my tears while reading this hand ceremony …so sweet!

Post # 12
14492 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I wish I could take credit for it, when we first were looking for ceremonies I found it on the web somewhere, for all I remember it might have been here.  We re-wrote it to personalize it for us and everytime I read it, I cry.

Post # 13
1237 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I’m dreading writing my ceremony but Mrs. Lovebug had a really cool portion in her ceremony that has always stuck with me. When they exchanged rings, each person put the other’s ring on halfway, then they pulled them on the rest of the way themselves, signifying that they’re both entering into the marriage willingly. It doesn’t really sound romantic the way I’m describing it, but believe me, it was. Look it up!

Post # 15
6 posts
  • Wedding: December 2011

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@MissHoneyBun: I actually was going to use that I have heard before and alwys thought it was simple and loving


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