(Closed) Writing our own vows

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1318 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Well, we are writing our own, too (I’m not sure Fiance realizes that yet, lol). I plan to vow to do all the obnoxious things I do now (leave shoes on the floor, not put my jewelry away, etc) and then follow that up with how I plan to make it worth it every single day. You get the humor about my laziness and then the sweet about how I’m worth it ^_^

Post # 4
315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 1997

@carleyjphoto:  The way I usually tell couples to write their vows by listing off 5 things they like about the person. For you it may be a list of 5 things you want to tease your Fiance about. Then expand on each item. Make the items as detailed as possible. Then after you have done that pick the sentences that really stand out to you. The really cute or funny things that make you laugh.

Do not try to force yourself to write your vows. Forcing the writing will only cause you to have writers block.
Good luck

Post # 5
368 posts
Helper bee

If you know what you want to say, but are having trouble putting it in writing, I’d get a friend to help you. Ask them to get a pen and paper (or computer) and write down what you say. They, very casually, tell them what you’d like to be in the vows. Don’t stress out about getting it perfect or in the right order, or even using the right words – just talk.

When you’re done speaking, look at what’s written, and then you can begin editing, revising, and rearranging your words. (I’m an English teacher, and have found this to be very helpful for students who are having trouble putting their ideas on paper. It helps you get a written record of your ideas so you don’t forget what you wanted to say, or feel overwhelmed by where to start)

Post # 6
295 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

We did our own vows. They were a complete suprised to each other on the wedding day… We just worked out between us the its should last about 45secs to a mintute when read and that it should be worked around the “theme” of past present and future…and we decided together on a same line that we would each read at the end.

When I wrote mine I just google heaps of examples and  chopped and changed bits -made them suit my style.


Here’s mine:

Jamie, thankyou for the last 6 years, it’s proven you are going to be an amazing husband. You have always supported me in everything I do. You always make me laugh even when times are tough. All you have to do is smile at me and my heart still soars.

 Today I feel like the strongest we’ve ever been. I promise to accept you as you are today; kind, funny, handsome, smart, loving and a full on computer geek. But you are my best friend, everything I could have hoped for in a man. I feel truly lucky to today become your wife. 

I promise to be by your side no matter what our future holds. I promise to be honest and faithfully yours forever. I will always love you and promise to be the best wife I can be.”



Hannah. To say I love in front of those present is simply not enough.

To try and condense my feelings into a only few words is impossible.

 For it doesn´t tell of  the respect I have for you, Nor how much I appreciate you,

 the pleasure you bring to my life or the support you give,

 How loving and caring you are or the strength you give when I have needed it.

 I love you and I love my life with you.

 I am proud to take you as my wife, for all the time we have shared together and the time that we are going to share

 Today as we begin our lives as husband and wife I promise to commit myself to you.

 I promise to help you through any challenges or difficulties you may face.

 I will always love you and Promise to be the best husband I can be.

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