(Closed) Writing our own vows to each other – Let me know what you think

posted 4 years ago in Traditions
Post # 2
2600 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think it’s really lovely, and–I hope you’re not offended by this–but I like it because it’s SHORT 🙂

You would be surprised at how many couples do not understand the power of brevity! And, on a better note, because it’s short, your Fiance and the congregation/attendees are not going to lose track of what you are saying and listen to every word. There might even be a few chuckles in there with the “drive me crazy” and “go to bed angry” lines.

(I’m gonna refrain on telling you what was in my vows–you and I have pretty different styles, so I’m not sure what help I’d be to you in that area!)


Post # 4
2305 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I think it’s good but am wondering if it should be personalized a bit more? We wrote of our own & think people really appreciated that we spoke from the heart about what we love about each other, our quirks, etc. 

Post # 6
2305 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

mct725:  sorta. I just talked about how marriage isn’t always easy but with love and commitment we can conquer all then I talked about how if he watches certain tv shows with me, I will watch his with him, etc. I talked about how and when I fell in love with him (without getting too mushy or personal). i am happy to share them with you if that would help. I think it really added to the personal touch of our day and made it that much more special. Neither of us made it through without crying. 

Post # 7
220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016 - World\'s Fair Pavilion

I agree with Prettysmile40, really lovely sentiments, but you could bump up the unique factor.

Fiance and I are writing our own vows. We came up with seven promises we want to make each other, and then each added a unique spin on that promise. As an example, we both promised to make the other’s passions our own. I followed it up by saying that I’d “never draft a Quarterback in the first round, always remember the four steps to a proper backhand frisbee throw, and pledge my undying allegiance to the St Louis Cardinals.” Everyone at the wedding will get those references and I think it will Kristien up their own memories of my FI’s passion for those things.

Post # 8
1149 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

mct725:  For me, vows are a reflection of you and your SO.  We wrote our own vows as well.  We’re both pretty lighthearted, not overly sentimental, and fun loving.  We actually did write our vows until the morning of.  Did I mention we were procrastinators as well?   Since we didn’t have much time to write or rehearse our vows, I think they were both sincere and reflective of our personalities and our true feelings.  Our guests had a few good laughs and some “awww” moments as well.  One of DH’s GMs (not a very sentimental guy) drunkenly admitted to me that he was holding back tears during our vows because he felt that they were just so heartfelt and sincere.  Sometimes I feel like when you spend a lot of time writing and rehearsing your vows, they become too rehearsed and people tend to overthink them.  Some vows I feel like are overreheased and sound very recited.  Some that I have heard are just so beautiful, because I feel like they’re so sincere and reflective of the person saying the vows.  I guess my advice is don’t overthink your vows and they should be reflective of your personality.  I think your vows are very sweet, btw!   

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