Post # 1
We decided to write our own vows for the ceremony and this is way harder than I thought it would be. This is what I have so far, I’m not sure if I need to go into more detail about how much I love him? I tried that at first but I feel like my vows would become long because I would make them too wordy. What did you write for your vows and how long were they?
Any advice is appreciated!
Today is the day my life begins
Today I choose you for life
Today I promise you my unconditional love and devotion
Today I give myself to you as your wife
On this day I promise:
To support you in your time of need
And to always put our family first
To be your light in the dark
And guide you through all of life’s obstacles
To always be patient with you
And love you when you drive me crazy
To respect you when we disagree
And never go to bed angry
To always laugh with you
And lift you up when you are down
To always be true
And grow with you in life and love
On this day, I promise to love you for the rest of my days and for all of eternity
Today you become my husband
Today you choose me for life
Today is the day our life begins
Post # 2
I think it’s really lovely, and–I hope you’re not offended by this–but I like it because it’s SHORT 🙂
You would be surprised at how many couples do not understand the power of brevity! And, on a better note, because it’s short, your Fiance and the congregation/attendees are not going to lose track of what you are saying and listen to every word. There might even be a few chuckles in there with the “drive me crazy” and “go to bed angry” lines.
(I’m gonna refrain on telling you what was in my vows–you and I have pretty different styles, so I’m not sure what help I’d be to you in that area!)
Post # 3
BothCoasts: Ya I really didn’t want it to be super long because we will already have a couple readings during the ceremony which is only going to be about 30min. We aren’t having a religous ceremony either. Thanks for the feed back!
Keep them coming ladies!
Post # 4
I think it’s good but am wondering if it should be personalized a bit more? We wrote of our own & think people really appreciated that we spoke from the heart about what we love about each other, our quirks, etc.
Post # 5
Prettysmile40: Ya that is definitely what I was thinking too, did you write yours kind of as a letter to your husband? There are so many different formats its so overwhelming.
Post # 6
mct725: sorta. I just talked about how marriage isn’t always easy but with love and commitment we can conquer all then I talked about how if he watches certain tv shows with me, I will watch his with him, etc. I talked about how and when I fell in love with him (without getting too mushy or personal). i am happy to share them with you if that would help. I think it really added to the personal touch of our day and made it that much more special. Neither of us made it through without crying.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2016 - World\'s Fair Pavilion
I agree with Prettysmile40, really lovely sentiments, but you could bump up the unique factor.
Fiance and I are writing our own vows. We came up with seven promises we want to make each other, and then each added a unique spin on that promise. As an example, we both promised to make the other’s passions our own. I followed it up by saying that I’d “never draft a Quarterback in the first round, always remember the four steps to a proper backhand frisbee throw, and pledge my undying allegiance to the St Louis Cardinals.” Everyone at the wedding will get those references and I think it will Kristien up their own memories of my FI’s passion for those things.
Post # 8
mct725: For me, vows are a reflection of you and your SO. We wrote our own vows as well. We’re both pretty lighthearted, not overly sentimental, and fun loving. We actually did write our vows until the morning of. Did I mention we were procrastinators as well? Since we didn’t have much time to write or rehearse our vows, I think they were both sincere and reflective of our personalities and our true feelings. Our guests had a few good laughs and some “awww” moments as well. One of DH’s GMs (not a very sentimental guy) drunkenly admitted to me that he was holding back tears during our vows because he felt that they were just so heartfelt and sincere. Sometimes I feel like when you spend a lot of time writing and rehearsing your vows, they become too rehearsed and people tend to overthink them. Some vows I feel like are overreheased and sound very recited. Some that I have heard are just so beautiful, because I feel like they’re so sincere and reflective of the person saying the vows. I guess my advice is don’t overthink your vows and they should be reflective of your personality. I think your vows are very sweet, btw!