(Closed) Writing thank-you note when you’re going to return the gift?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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5148 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Some rice cookers can be used as steamers, so you may be able to get some use out of it.

Just say thank you for the wonderful gift and then go into thanking them for being at the wedding and when you’re looking forward to seeing them again. Don’t say you’re returning the gift.

Post # 4
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858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Just say you are so grateful for their generosity. It was so kind of them to think of you. If you saw them when you received the gift (wedding or shower) thank them for their attendance. Say something about the wedding coming up fast. Thank them again. ๐Ÿ™‚ No need to mention it. If they bring it up in person sometime, just say how nice it was for them to get you such a nice gift, but since Fiance can’t eat carbs, you had to exchange it.

Post # 5
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5106 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@mightywombat: Maybe something along the lines of saying how thoughtful the gift was, but due to underlying circumstances it won’t work to benefit FI’s health, ummm… well, hmmm that probably doesn’t sound right either.

That is kind of hard for real!

Maybe you can just say that the sentiment was great, and you appreciate the thoughtful gift. That’s not lying, and you shouldn’t have to be obligated to tell them you’re taking it back. If it comes up later, you can explain the story to them. If I was the one who got you the gift, I wouldn’t get my feelings hurt over this…

Good luck! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
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928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would still write the thank you note because whether you are intending to keep it or not, they stil brought you a gift and sometimes, it really is the thought that counts. I think it would hurt their feelings more to not receive one because they still bought you and your husband something. You don’t have to mention how you will use it, just thank them for thinking of yall and say how sweet it was for coming and maybe mention a convo you had if you received it at a shower or how good it will be to see them at the wedding, whatever and leave it at that. Are they close? If it’s close family or friends then still send the note but tell them the truth because they would understand. If it’s your Aunt Martha Jane that you aren’t too close to, I wouldn’t worry about it.

Sticky situation!

Post # 8
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2742 posts
Sugar bee

Except the person is a close friend or family, how are they to know WHAT exactly you did with the rice cooker? Tell them thanks for the rice cooker and that you are happy they got you a gift. You don’t have to tell them what you will use the gift for. And really, who goes around asking folks “So, how did you like the rice cooker/blender/towel set etc that I gave you?” I hope no one does that.

Post # 9
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2397 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would just say “Thank you so much for the rice cooker.  We really appreciate your generosity.” It’s truthful — as you’ll be able to use their generosity to get something that you can put to good use ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
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928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@mightywombat : Oops, I interpretted it wrong and I’m sorry! I think you’re on the right track with the wording ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Yea, you can say thank you for the gift! That was so thoughtful. We really enjoyed seeing you at our wedding. It meant so much to us. Etc etc. No need to mention that you will be exchanging it. And you’re not really lying because honestly, I think everyone is thoughtful when they pick out gifts. They may not have known that your hubby can’t eat carbs. And probably thought it was such a great gift because the ease of cooking rice and being able to steam with it.

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