(Closed) writing vows, nervous will cry during ceremony

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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519 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’ve worried that I will cry, but I think I can get through them. I am planning on starting out a little comical, then to change it into the more serious, heartfelt stuff. I just think starting out with a little cute humor will help put me (and him) at ease.

Post # 4
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341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Definitely make sure that your officiant has a copy!!!  I was terrified that I would wail the whole way through mine, and when I got up in front of everyone, I got so nervous that I forgot EVERY word and had to have help.  I didn’t cry because I was MORTIFIED that I forgot all of it hahaha!

Post # 5
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127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Ya know, I was terrified of this too. I would start crying just thinking about walking down the aisle or when I would think about what I might even write! LOL. I’d cry in the car just thinking about the day! It was bad. I thought there was no way in hell I was going to get through that. We ended up reading our vows to each other a couple nights before so that we could make sure they weren’t completely OFF and different. Actually, I just read mine to him since he wasn’t done writing his yet… ;P  We both cried while I read them!  BUT on the actual day I got through them just fine. And he did too (although he cried when I came down aisle eventhough we had taken pics ahead of time…loooved that) I was a tiny bit teary eyed and my voiced quivered a tiny, but no actual tears. It was crazy! I was just sooooo happy that entire day! I think its hard to really predict how you’ll actually be on the day. If you start to fall apart, just take a moment to try and regroup….if you can’t, I’m sure the officiant could step in. But I have a feeling that won’t be necessary. What ever happens will be the right and perfect thing for your ceremony πŸ™‚

 

Post # 6
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1133 posts
Bumble bee

@tanbarr:  << THIS. I’m not engaged yet but dear lord, I can’t think of the specialness of that day without crying. I think about seeing his face at the end of the aisle and I get teary eyed. I want to say traditional vows to try and minimize the TEARS coming from my face, but really want to be able to speak from my heart as well. As it is now I can barely speak about things that deep without crying. Lord help me!

Post # 8
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344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

You will cry like a hungry baby!!!!! I wrote my own vows and I was crying the minute I got the microphone and so was everyone at the ceremony. When the ceremony was over everyone kept saying how beautiful our ceremony was and how unique the vows were. You will cry but will not regret it. 

Post # 10
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127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@arabesque:  Oh you’re welcome! I’m glad you found that helpful. I can assure you that sharing a bit of it won’t take away from the specialness. I found that it was also kinda of necessary so we weren’t writing something completely different in style. It worked out great, was still incredibly special and emotional and I managed to spare my makeup! I can’t say the same for our guests…..everyone was in tears! πŸ˜‰ His best man was a mess!! It was cute!

 

 

Post # 11
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23607 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@arabesque:  Even if you cry, I think it’s really sweet. I’m not a fan of handing your vows to your officiant to read them.  You should do your best to get through it!

Can I suggest eating a banana before the ceremony? It serves as a beta blocker, a nerves containing food.  It helped me not cry, and I’m usually out of control emotional/nervous.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

OMG I’m so sure I’m going to cry while I read my vows! I might not even be able to finish!

@pengoala:  Wow what a great idea to eat a banana!! I will definitely try tha!

Post # 13
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2871 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I cried my face off, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
Having our own vows was so special to both of us.  For what its worth I probably would have cried with the traditional vows too.

Its ok to cry, its ok to take some time getting through them, its your wedding day You are allowed to be emotional Wink
 

Post # 14
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1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We solved it by having the officient read our vows- and then answering “we do” it was amazing that we answered them the same time each time…. he says it shows we are besherets.. I say it shows we both panic the same way

Post # 14
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1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We solved it by having the officient read our vows- and then answering “we do” it was amazing that we answered them the same time each time…. he says it shows we are besherets.. I say it shows we both panic the same way

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

We wrote our own vows, and we dicided to have the officiant do the “Repeat after me” thing.

So the officiant will say: “I_____ take you, ____ to be my wife” Then MEM will repeat that. On to the next line etc… Until all is “repeated”. Same goes with me. I don’t like the idea of having a piece of paper in front of me and reading it.

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