(Closed) Writing your own ceremony question

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We just googled a bunch and mixed and matched what worked for us. We did love Mrs. Apple’s hand ceremony. Darling Husband has married a few couples and they have all chosen the hand ceremony to be included also.

 

 

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I wrote ours. Figuring out how traditional you want things is a good place to start. We personally didn’t do things very traditionally but not so off beat that my grandparents would give the stink eye lol. I did a bunch of research (included some of the places I started below) but nothing seemed right until I found 

http://mrcandmeblog.wordpress.com/2011/09/23/diy-wedding-ceremony-wording/

I certainly changed it to suit us and added parts/took out parts to suit our wedding but it felt like a HUGE weight had been lifted once I found that one. And from what I heard afterwards the guests got pretty misty, so I guess it had feeling.

It’ll take research to figure out if you want readings (and what they will be) as well as any specific elements you want to include, candles, sand, tree planting, whatever floats your boat. Good luck and if you want a copy of ours for ideas I can PM it to you.

http://apracticalwedding.com/2013/06/how-to-write-your-wedding-ceremony/

http://apracticalwedding.com/2010/10/writing-a-non-traditional-wedding-ceremony/

http://offbeatbride.com/2013/02/friend-officiant

http://offbeatbride.com/2012/10/wedding-ceremony-101

http://www.anotherdamnwedding.com/2011/01/09/our-ceremony/ – just found this one not too sure what it is but she has links to some of her sources as well

 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Gold Hill Gardens

sambee99:  we also used A Practical Wedding as a jumping off point. I copied and pasted things I found that I liked into a word document and wordsmithed it from there. We had our dads marry us, Mother-In-Law did a Carl Sagan-inspired reading, my mom did a hand fasting, and SMIL did a ring warming. The rings were in the entryway to our ceremony, so they were just passed between our wedding party in the actual ceremony.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

hyzenthlay:  What is this Carl Sagan-inspired reading you speak of? We’re writing our own, too, and Fiance would just about die and go to heaven if we read something by CS! 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Gold Hill Gardens

LoveMyBrit:  

 

The size and age of the Cosmos are beyond what our minds can easily comprehend. Lost somewhere between its immensity and eternity lies our tiny planetary home. Our planet is so astonishing, packed full of mountains, deserts, seas, all the plants and animals, glorious wonders we can share. On the Earth walks mankind with all it’s faults to bear, yet ever so exquisite with so much love and moral depth. May we remain grateful every day on Earth we live for the brief but wonderous opportunity that all of life is. Although mankind is faulty, we continue to strive. The sum of all thinking, all our accomplishments is love. From within one of the billions of species to walk upon this tiny spec in the universe we find two imperfect people who want to share their short lives, living it as one. May this marriage take two fractional lives and make those fractional lives a whole. May these partners build a better world for the next generation to come. May this union bring a new light to the sunshine, a new fragrance to the flowers, a new beauty to the earth, and a new mystery to life.

 

We also had a quote from Neil deGrasse Tyson: We are all connected, to each other biologically, to the Earth chemically, to the rest of the universe atomically.

 

And a reading from John Muir (not about love or weddings, but about the mountains, and it seemed to fit with our Summer Solstice celebration).

 

Hope that helped!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’m writing mine right now. One of mine and FI’s really good friends is marrying us, so the three of us are writing the ceremony together. We looked online and found a general outline of a ceremony and then just started plugging in the pieces, taking the generic stuff out, etc. I’m a writer and an English grad student, so I’m tackling this ceremony the same way I would approach my thesis: Research, research, oh, and some research. Then I’m compiling all of the readings we’ve found, different ideas we want to incorporate, the feel we want, and then just kind of piecing it all together. 

There were things that are important for us to mention in the wedding, like, for example, our strong beliefs that a marriage is between two PEOPLE, not a “man and a woman.” We also are leaving religion out of it. We don’t attend church and are both more spiritual than religious, so it didn’t feel authentic to have many religious undertones in the wedding. 

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Timber Lake Playhouse - Mt. Carroll, IL

K-labree:  Aw, I’m so glad you found my ceremony wording helpful! πŸ™‚ I’m the “Me” in Mr.C & Me. Writing that was very much a labor of love but completely worth it and one of my favorite parts of the day. Especially having all our guests pronounce us married!! Anyway, I’d love to read the ceremony you guys ended up with! If you’re willing to share πŸ™‚ Mind PMing me? 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

raevnn:  Really?? That is so cool! It was by far my favourite example and had me bawling and giggling the first time I read through it (which I’d say is a pretty great feat since I don’t know either of you!) The reference/meaning behind everything was so obviously reflective of the two of you and the tone it set was everything I hoped to accomplish when I set out to write our ceremony, but had no idea how to put in to words. All I can say is, I am so glad you decided to share it for others!! I’m working all night but will send it tomorrow when I’m home πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Timber Lake Playhouse - Mt. Carroll, IL

K-labree:  absolutely. and thank you so much! πŸ™‚ people were very shocked when we decided not to go traditional (since we come from a small town that always does things a certain way / some of our family is religious) but i kept telling them, just wait! every other option (besides writting ourselves/having a friend marry us) was so not us. i didn’t want to be self-conscious on our big day, i didn’t want some semi-stranger up there with us, i didn’t want to have to say certain lines to please the state/church, etc. we wanted the cermony to ooooooze us. and i’m so glad we accomplished that. πŸ™‚ so many other couples (from weddingbee/around the web) were influential and inspriational when we were working out our own wording, i just knew we had to give back the same way. can’t wait to read what you came up with! i’m sure it will be reflective of you two and what you want for your wedding day and marriage to come. 

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