Post # 1
Sitting down to write my own vows today. Yeah, my wedding is only a month away, I know. I’m a slacker with a crazy schedule. Since we got engaged we have made joke vows such as: “I promise to never pick all the M&M’s out of the trail mix” “I promise to act like I think all the rocks you bring home are interesting”. But today it’s for real. I need to write the words for our handfasting and write my vows. I’ve already cried twice. Not out of stress, but because it is just so damn SWEET! I’m marrying this man who is so freaking amazing and has signed up for a life of abject insanity with me and the monkeys!
Bees, my request to you is 2 fold: I want to hear some good joke vows. And I want to know if you have any amazing hints, tips, resources you used to write yours! And if you know how to keep me from being a blubbering mess, that would be great too!
Post # 2
I googled a lot for inspiration for our vows. My vows weren’t 100% original, I found it easier to taken bits and pieces from vows I found online and tweaking them to fit our relationship. A Practical Wedding had a lot that I really liked. I also kept it short and sweet because I hate it when vows get too long at weddings.
We got a lot of compliments on our vows.
Post # 3
I also googled and took some inspiration from others. I tweaked and made them my own. I had some funny things, an inside joke and some sweet things. I waited until like 3 weeks before, so you aren’t a complete slacker! Good luck.
Post # 4
hikingbride : Ugh, trying to use A Practical Wedding and the layout is making me crazy, ads blocking everything. But they do have a lot of what I’m looking for, vows and info about writing a handfasting ceremony, thanks!
Post # 5
I also googled and took inspiration and then tweaked. My vows were kind of long but here’s a small section of the “funny” vows. I also included sweet ones too right after these.
I vow to always stand front row with you during concerts even if it means getting kicked in the head. To geek out when a new superhero movie comes out or you have to go to the comic book shop for the third time this week. I promise to try and watch a full series with you instead of letting you get two seasons in before I finally admit I like it. I promise to always get us lost when we go somewhere new. I vow to be a quality roommate and actually fold our clothes instead of just throwing them in another basket or on top of the bed in a big pile.
I also used a Ted Mosby quote because How I met your mother is one of our favorite series!
As far as keeping you from blubbering I’d say embrace it! Writing your vows and getting married is emotional!
Post # 6
Oh man, this is ridiculous. I’m a sobbing mess. I just can’t believe someone loves me this much and that I get to say these words to him and spend my life with him! And I’m just at home alone in my jammies. This does not bode well for keeping all that makeup on during the ceremony lol! Thank goodnes for waterproof mascara!
Post # 7
I wrote my vows two days before our wedding and cried the entire time too. Our guests said that it was the most memorable part of our ceremony. The woman who officiated our wedding sent over 15 pages of examples and I incorporated a few lines here and there. If you would like me to email this to you, let me know! It was such a big help for us and they came out perfect.
Post # 8
bluebrd191 : That would be awesome! Can you pm it to me here or should I pm you an email address? Thank you so much!
Post # 9
desertgypsy : pm an email address. It’s a rather large attachment.
Post # 11
bluebrd191 : Sitting here reading the poems…and crying some more haha. Those are amazing, thank you so much!
Post # 12
desertgypsy : hi!! could i get that as well? wedding is a month away and also not even close to starting my vows.. i’ll PM my email 🙂
Post # 13
desertgypsy : We did the handfasting. I actually used a version of the handfasting ceremony I found on the weddingbee (sorry I don’t have the specific link) & personalized it with the help of Darling Husband and our officiant. I love your personalized ‘joke’ vows- I think you should leave them in, they’re funny and sweet without being too cutesy.
Post # 14
desertgypsy : I wrote mine the morning of the wedding – I tend to work best under pressure so although that proved valuable for me I definitely don’t recommend it for everyone.
I didn’t Google but in the months before the wedding I just kept making bullet points of things I noticed about him or reasons I was so excited to be his wife.
Our ceremony was done by a close family friend so leading up the big day she asked both he and I, separately, to write down anecdotes, stories, etc. of why we love each other. It helped me get an idea of what I wanted to say and the general feel our vows were taking. This is an excerpt from what I wrote (that she used in the ceremony):
“Loving and being loved by the perfect person for you is utterly and completely indescribable. It’s everything and nothing all at once. You cannot hold it, see it, or move it but it is 1000% real and unrelenting. Every moment of every day I am tied to him. It is not a struggle of power or control, but an organic fastening that provides the biggest sense of comfort a person could ever know. No matter what happened during my day I knew that there was someone I could come home to who made none of it matter.”
My advice is to do just a massive brain dump of everything – it’s always easier to widdle down rather than build it out – and just start going through it and see what theme connects your favorite parts.
On a more “jokey” side of things we did manage to include Bill Murray quotes so that was nice 🙂
Post # 15
I’d keep them short and sweet. If you are crying through the practice then it may be hard to articulate on your wedding day.
I’ll never forget my cousins wedding. She wrote her vows as well as her husbands vows. It was pretty funny to hear him reading it and saying how marvellous she was, knowing she wrote it. She cried through the whole thing because she found herself so romantic!