Writing your own vows? Tell me about them!

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
9681 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I googled a lot for inspiration for our vows. My vows weren’t 100% original, I found it easier to taken bits and pieces from vows I found online and tweaking them to fit our relationship. A Practical Wedding had a lot that I really liked. I also kept it short and sweet because I hate it when vows get too long at weddings. 

We got a lot of compliments on our vows.

Post # 3
958 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I also googled and took some inspiration from others. I tweaked and made them my own. I had some funny things, an inside joke and some sweet things. I waited until like 3 weeks before, so you aren’t a complete slacker! Good luck. 

Post # 5
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I also googled and took inspiration and then tweaked. My vows were kind of long but here’s a small section of the “funny” vows. I also included sweet ones too right after these. 

I vow to always stand front row with you during concerts even if it means getting kicked in the head. To geek out when a new superhero movie comes out or you have to go to the comic book shop for the third time this week. I promise to try and watch a full series with you instead of letting you get two seasons in before I finally admit I like it. I promise to always get us lost when we go somewhere new. I vow to be a quality roommate and actually fold our clothes instead of just throwing them in another basket or on top of the bed in a big pile. 

I also used a Ted Mosby quote because How I met your mother is one of our favorite series!

As far as keeping you from blubbering I’d say embrace it! Writing your vows and getting married is emotional! 

Post # 7
25 posts
  • Wedding: September 2016

I wrote my vows two days before our wedding and cried the entire time too. Our guests said that it was the most memorable part of our ceremony. The woman who officiated our wedding sent over 15 pages of examples and I incorporated a few lines here and there. If you would like me to email this to you, let me know!  It was such a big help for us and they came out perfect. 

Post # 9
25 posts
  • Wedding: September 2016

desertgypsy :  pm an email address. It’s a rather large attachment. 

Post # 12
161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

desertgypsy :  hi!! could i get that as well? wedding is a month away and also not even close to starting my vows.. i’ll PM my email 🙂 

Post # 13
5916 posts
Bee Keeper

desertgypsy :  We did the handfasting. I actually used a version of the handfasting ceremony I found on the weddingbee (sorry I don’t have the specific link) & personalized it with the help of Darling Husband and our officiant. I love your personalized ‘joke’ vows- I think you should leave them in, they’re funny and sweet without being too cutesy. 

Post # 14
486 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

desertgypsy :  I wrote mine the morning of the wedding – I tend to work best under pressure so although that proved valuable for me I definitely don’t recommend it for everyone.

I didn’t Google but in the months before the wedding I just kept making bullet points of things I noticed about him or reasons I was so excited to be his wife.

Our ceremony was done by a close family friend so leading up the big day she asked both he and I, separately, to write down anecdotes, stories, etc. of why we love each other. It helped me get an idea of what I wanted to say and the general feel our vows were taking. This is an excerpt from what I wrote (that she used in the ceremony):

Loving and being loved by the perfect person for you is utterly and completely indescribable. It’s everything and nothing all at once. You cannot hold it, see it, or move it but it is 1000% real and unrelenting. Every moment of every day I am tied to him. It is not a struggle of power or control, but an organic fastening that provides the biggest sense of comfort a person could ever know. No matter what happened during my day I knew that there was someone I could come home to who made none of it matter.”

My advice is to do just a massive brain dump of everything – it’s always easier to widdle down rather than build it out – and just start going through it and see what theme connects your favorite parts.

On a more “jokey” side of things we did manage to include Bill Murray quotes so that was nice 🙂


Post # 15
222 posts
Helper bee

I’d keep them short and sweet. If you are crying through the practice then it may be hard to articulate on your wedding day.

I’ll never forget my cousins wedding. She wrote her vows as well as her husbands vows. It was pretty funny to hear him reading it and saying how marvellous she was, knowing she wrote it. She cried through the whole thing because she found herself so romantic! 

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