- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
It’s going to be a novel…..perhaps that’s selfish of me and I’m sorry, but I guess you’re reading this voluntarily, skim (skip!) what you want!
The day of went well, it was really freaking amazing and I would talk about it all day long (and write long like I’m about to)…..that being said -I’m really glad it’s over.
No pro pics yet, just the four teasers, hopefully soon!
The week before was hell….redefines it, the week before our wedding needed a TLC show.
FI’s (ok….he’s not Fiance anymore, what is he now abbreviated? Can he be hubby?) family is from out East (Nova Scotia) and we offered to have them at our house as much as they wanted….BAD decision. We had a very DIY venue and as an event planner at work, leading up to my events, everything needs to be seen, visual, laid out and organized. I took the same plan for our wedding and when they arrived I had to put it all away….first part of stress for me. We hosted Hubby’s bachelor party the Tuesday before, my bachelorette was the Wednesday, we hosted the rehearsal dinner/party (45 people or so) Thursday, wedding Saturday and just about 60 for brunch post-wedding on the Sunday….our house was a flipping zoo. I had a meltdown on the Wednesday I think, boys hungover in my house in the am, I need to get stuff done, boys finally leave for lunch, I start working, get into some work, then need to run errands (my sister/BM is with me) and we needed to get some stuff, drop off Out of Town bags at hotels, etc, and as we walk out the door, Hubby’s parents and my two FSIL’s pull up, it’s like I couldn’t escape them. They are all lovely, amazing people, and I am so lucky to have such great fam to marry into, but not being able to do what I want how I wanted (needed!) to that week was killer for me.
My maid of honour bailed on being in our wedding party and bailed on my life an hour before the rehearsal, I don’t even want to type it all out because the day of was so amazing and she is now forgotten and as far as I’m concerned made a decision that was going to happen eventually, it’s just too bad weddings can bring out the worst in people. Two weeks before she bailed on us using her Dad’s large beautiful mansion house (it’s empty and for sale right now) for my bachelorette and staying at the night before the wedding/getting ready the day of. She just said she couldn’t do any of that and bailed, no replacement, no offer to do something different, so my BM’s planned something, fine. She is from the other side of the country and was coming in for her Dad’s (2nd) wedding the weekend before our wedding and wanted to know if I needed her for anything so she could plan to go visit other friends and family. Which of course, is fine….rather than saying if I could have her for a day, I didn’t want to keep her from family especially her short time here, so I said I didn’t need her. This was a week prior to the wedding? Anyways, she took it as me not wanting her to be involved, and honestly after bailing on the bachelorette thing I really did question how much she wanted to be there. We’ve been friends for a long time and I picked her because of that, but our connectivity has really lacked in recent years and true colours came out with this wedding stuff. So anwyays. Wednesday pre-wedding comes and she offers to pick me and a Bridesmaid or Best Man up to go to dinner/”bachelorette” thing and texts at 5:11 she would be 30 minutes. At 6:15 she still wasn’t there and with resvervations for 6:30 we got my Future Brother-In-Law to drive us. She showed up late and pissed I left without her, wtf was I supposed to do, I had Mom’s, FSIL’s, grandmother’s at this, I can’t be late. End of night she says “call me later” and leaves. She’s usually a social butterfly and did nothing to talk with anyone. Next day texts a 3 part text message and says someone else should be Maid/Matron of Honor and good luck at the wedding and all the best in the future. Decided not to deal with it rehearsal night with all the fam and so I said let’s have fun and deal with it tomorrow. I call her first thing, leave a 2+ min voicemail saying there’s been some miscommunications obviously, I want you at the wedding, let’s figure this out, blah blah…..no word from her. Cut my losses, move on and enjoy this so so so special day.
Fiance & I spent Friday together, which wasn’t the initial plan, I was just so stressed from the week, I said we’re locking the doors and hanging out and that we did and it was amazing, such an awesome day. I left him around 6pm to head to my Mom’s. Mom, sister and I went for ice cream, watched SYTTD-Bridesmaids premiere and had a great lazy night, I got about 8 hours sleep.
Wedding morning, perfect weather….going to be warm, but perfect!!! I head to Tim Horton’s to buy 140 timbits for our timbit tower and then to the venue to get our flowers and check things out. BM’s (now down to four!) come over to Mom’s just after 10, we get into the bubbly and OJ and turn on American Wedding (the American Pie wedding movie!) and take turns getting hair done. I can’t decide if I am nervous or hungry and start PIGGING out on the food my Mom prepared and had brought in….Just kept eating, it was amazing (ha!). Photographer arrived around noon and starts shooting my shoes, dress and ring! I am the last to have hair and make up done, it’s all starting to come together! Just Mom, BM’s (sister included) and I go to two locations in my hometown for photos pre-wedding, we have a blast, photog is amazing and we’re feeling so dang pretty. 3:30-4 we stop back at Mom’s and have a drink, have a pee (which wasn’t all that hard in the dress!!) and prepare to leave for 4pm……it’s all happening!!!
We leave at 4, we’re about 15 minutes away, and with a 4:30 ceremony we drive super, super slow down some country roads and enjoy the sunshine. I arrive, videographer and DJ greet me with some last minute questions, step-Dad brings over our dog as he is walking with Mom and I for the long walk to the ceremony area and then down the aisle! One of my girlfriends is running late and dashing along the parking lot (field!!) trying to get ahead of us, I call her over for a big hug, quick chat and away she goes! My BM’s take off for their walk together to the top of the aisle, then their individual walks down the aisle. They’re down…..the music changes (live fiddlers, to my acoustic song from The Princess Bride) and it’s GO time for Mom, Fin and ME…the Bride!!!
Down we go, videographer is stalking us as we walk, I really remember deciding where I should look, lol…. I am waiting for Hubby to turn to look at me, smiling at everyone, just wanting to say hi in every direction but focus on Hubby too! I am holding two dog cookies between my palm and bouquet as backup incase Fin misbehaves. We get to the officiant and to hubby, hand off and away we go through the ceremony -my hands are grimey with dog cookie crumbs….only me….hilarious -what can you do? The sun is shining, we’re getting married, dog crumbs I can handle!
The ceremony was great, one of my BM’s who I was Maid/Matron of Honor for last summer played “MOH” fixing my train, holding my bouquet and signing for us. My sister did a wonderful reading and in 15 minutes we were up the aisle! Hubby and I walked up, Finlay was off leash and with no instructions ran up the aisle in perfect time ahead of us, it was so cute.
Photographer got everyone (176 guests) in one big group photo immediately following the ceremony, then we jumped into a receiving line that I desperately wanted to do just to get a chance to see everyone at least once. I honestly loved it, loved quick chit chat and it was so fun! Venue (farm) owners then pull up with a big tractor and wagon in tow, and had a cooler packed for us and took us, parents, and entire wedding party to back of property for photos. The ride back was relaxing, great time to mingle and sip beer, take pics and enjoy the moment! As people were “done” in photos they were taken back in the wagon, they took us further back to an amazing wheat field, we had a drink, took more pics and hung out with each other and the bridal party, I loved that. Got our pics done in a jiffy (we just had an hour and 45 minutes to do the group pic, receiving line, and all pics!). We rode back in the wagon with just the photographer, more down time to enjoy a moment chit chatting and the gorgeous day! We arrived back at the reception area (barn!) and some family and friends took some pics with us before being asked to take seats for dinner. We lined up and in we went to our table! We didn’t do a head table, we did a king’s table with 27 people, us, parents, grandparents, MC (and his date), bridal party and their dates!
Our kissing game was that if you wanted us to kiss you had to answer a question, the answer being me, Fiance or both. We got to question 12 and no one got anything right! They were not trick questions (or so we thought!) and so when you got a question wrong you had to kiss someone else! Too funny, we had a lot of fun with that. Buffet went so well, quick, lots of warm, yummy food, I loved sitting and enjoying it (and again eating like a pig!) Speeches followed as we ate our ice cream crepes for dessert. My BM’s surprised me with a speech, my Mom’s was amazing, FI’s parents was so sweet, Best man’s speech was hilarious (nothing written, omg we died laughing!) and the way Fiance spoke to me was so amazing for his part of the speech to me. Our table had to be torn down for the rest of the reception so while that was done we went out for more photos, boys had cigars and mingling as the sun went down! We went back in for our first dance, our slideshow played at the same time as our dance too. Fiance danced with his Mom, then I had a dance with my step-Dad and totally unplanned we ended up doing the bouquet toss and garter toss right afterwards! We forgot to cut the cake! I didn’t see Fiance for an hour after our dances, we were mingling and back and forth to the dance floor and really mingled a lot until late, made the rounds as much as we could, did some shots with our bartenders (some girls I work with, everyone loved them!) did some crazy dancing and scream-yell-singing on the dancefloor, it was too, too fun!
Almost done, oh man! We were supposed to end at 1. Ha….yah right! I sent my work friends home (bartenders) and we kept going until 2:30 or so! Bar went self-serve and we just kept at it! It was so funny to see who stayed late, there was a core group of about 40 still on the dancefloor at 2, like cousins I have seen twice in the last 5 years……still there, we had a blast with everyone and oh man….I don’t know how I had the energy! I only went pee in our expensive washroom trailer once (it was our “splurge” so everyone was ok with the bathroom situation!) and it was wonderful, lol. We left the barn around 3:30 after helping clean up a bit with the venue owners, they didn’t care if we cleaned up right away, but we wanted to help a little! I drove us home in my wedding dress in my step-Dad truck, I felt so hick, lol.
Hubby and I got home (4 minutes from venue!) and cracked a drink and sat on our front porch, I was hell bent on reading the guestbook and Fiance had a cigar. We sat out until 4:30 or so and finally headed to bed, where we didn’t sleep until the sun was up and went right into hosting a massive brunch a few hours later! What a day!
Here are a few pictures 🙂
Table assignments on window frames with old desk and guestbook (photobook with E-pics): http://a3.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/263568_10150253990887141_665682140_7295595_1087987_n.jpg
Bakerella made our cake toppers!! http://a1.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/264625_556693676523_227200268_1938351_4757432_n.jpg
Bakerella -again THANK-YOU for making those, you are a wonderfully talented woman!
The feedback we’ve gotten is insane, so flattering and makes me so happy. I plan events for work and get good feedback, but it meant a lot to hear all that we did about the wedding both here and from Hubby’s fam in NS. I tried so desperately to not miss anything and make sure everyone was happy. I think what was also a big factor is when you tell people you’re getting married at a barn that doesn’t “do” weddings on a normal basis their expectations are going to be pretty low and I think we blew it out of the water pretty good. Had the weather been bad, the day would have been a lot different, we won a few luck lotteries (and someone won $100 on our scratch ticket favours!) and we’re lucky everything turned out how we had hoped.
Thanks for reading…..I posted this originally in a July 2011 post and decided to throw it into recaps for fun 🙂