(Closed) Wrong gown for the right venue

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
322 posts
Helper bee

Oh man, that must be tough! Why doesn’t the dress go with the venue?

Post # 4
2779 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ok, slow down, why is it the wrong dress? And think about the reasons as to why you bought it – you must felt something strong in order to feel so disappointed now!

Post # 5
46613 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

So sorry you are feeling this way about your dress. Maybe take a few days to think about it. I have NEVER looked at a bride and said “Wrong gown for the right venue”.

You must have loved it when you ordered it- what has changed since then?

Post # 6
541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I don’t think there’s any wrong dress for any venue. I bought my dress not knowing where I’d be getting married. But I think it was better because then you don’t have any restrictions, just what you love.

I’d love to see the dress. And even the venue, if you have pics. I’m sure you can tweek the details and decor of your wedding so you can keep your dress. As Tim Gunn says, you can always “make it work!” 😀

Post # 8
322 posts
Helper bee

@CantWaittillMAY : Ok but do you LOVE the dress??? Do you feel beautiful in it? I think that is what’s important…however, if you are going to feel uncomfortable on your big day, you don’t want that either. Do you have a pic of the dress you could show us?

Post # 10
1871 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Do you have a picture of the dress?

You know, the dress doesn’t have to match the venue–in fact, I kind of love it when it doesn’t. I was just as the courthouse applying for the marriage license among a bunch of women all beautifully suited and in walked this girl who was wearing a full-on ballgown, beading and everything. Her groom was in army fatigues. And they went to the JOP, got married, and EVERYONE cheered for them. It was gorgeous and you could tell no one would say boo about her walking the streets of NYC in her big white dress. Another friend of mine wanted to go all out with her wedding dress and did, even though she had a budget wedding, and she didn’t look out of place–she looked like a bride having the time of her life.

Buuuuttt…if you still feel that it’s the wrong choice, you can try selling it. Or, depending on its construction, you can try taking it to a tailor and seeing if they can alter it in some way to take it down a notch–shorten the skirt, make the skirt less full…That too will cost money, but hopefully less than buying a new frock.

Post # 11
249 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Hi there…I am sorry u r feeling that way..ur wedding sounds like so much fun.  I just checked ur post when u showed ur dress and must say it is beautiful and simple NOT AT ALL too over the top for a simple wedding. before i saw that post i was expecting a ballgown with LOTS OF beadings and a long train..ur dress is perfect and u did say it was the one..so enjoy being the beautiful bride u will be in ur down to earth wedding 🙂

Post # 12
326 posts
Helper bee

i think it’s beautiful, yes it’s a fancy formal dress but you’re the bride! you’re supposed to look more dressed up than everyone else anyway. don’t worry about it not suiting the venue

Post # 13
322 posts
Helper bee

Oooooooooooo it’s beautiful!!!!!!!!!! And I really seriously don’t think it is over the top fancy. Seriously. Maybe if the guys were wearing just khakis and a polo shirt then ok, but they’re wearing vests and ties. I think you’re totally fine as far as the dress matching the venue.

I just reread your post though and you said it does not represent who you are as a person. That is what concerns me, not the issue of the venue. You need to feel amazing on your wedding day. You want to look back at pictures and be incredibly happy, not thinking “I wish I didn’t wear that dress”. If this is how you will feel, it is worth it to think about selling this dress and purchasing something else.

Post # 14
5388 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Your dress is beautiful and I think it will be perfect for your wedding. When I first read your post I was expected to see a ball gown. 

Post # 15
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

You only get this one time to wear the super fancy white dress.  I think the dress and the venue really need not have anything to do with each other.  More important is how wearing the dress makes you feel.  Do you feel like a bride? Are you excited for your fiance to see you wearing the dress?  Isn’t it fun to white and poofy and a little bit more elegant than you are in your regular day to day?

Post # 16
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think the dress is beautiful. If you really don’t like it and want to try to sell it send me a message I might be instered in buying it

The topic ‘Wrong gown for the right venue’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors