Post # 1
Two nights ago my bf (of 2 and a half years) and I were out at a friend’s house when he called me by his exes name! It’s the second time in our relationship that he’s done it but the first time was near the start during a small tiff.
I just laughed it off at the time because I could tell he was embarrassed (he went bright red, I’ve never seen him so red before). He brought it up twice after as if to try to talk about it but dropped the subject quickly.
Thing is, I’m now slightly annoyed that he didn’t think to appologise (I know, I’m probably being unfair). Anyway, just wondered if anyone else has had this happen and how far into their relationship.
Post # 3
Does he have alot of contact with his ex or see her regularly? I would personally find it kinda odd that he has her on his mind.
Post # 4
no but I called him Josh (my best friend’s name) one time when I was irritated and exasperated so it was funny.
Post # 5
@PinkPinstripes: No, he doesn’t have any contact with her. He said he really didn’t know where it came from, said it was almost a habit (they were together for nearly 6 years and he was planning to propose, they only broke up 2 months before we got together).
Do you think I should explore it more? I was mainly annoyed cos it happened 2 days after he said we would be engaged by the time I’m 30 (2 years time) – we rarely talk about the future which makes me paranoid enough without that.
I know neither of them would take the other back, I don’t worry at all about that now (I did for the first year)
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars
Actually, whenever I get annoyed at my Boyfriend or Best Friend being too sarcastic or flippant with me, I have to stop myself from calling him my brother’s name. And, I haven’t been fast enought to stop myself a time or two. Old habits die hard; I’m only used to my brother annoying me in that way before him.
So, if he was with his ex for a while, I understand. It’s a reflex to a familiar feeling, not worth worrying, In My Humble Opinion.
Post # 7
@LemonLavender: Sorry, Im kinda new and still getting used the the abbreviations, what’s IMHO?
Post # 8
@Scottish_lassie: In My Humble Opinion = in my honest opinion
Fi never called me by someone else’s name, but his mom did! Right at the beginning. I finally asked him who the girl was and she was someone he went on a date with and his mom heard him on the phone with her. Fiance actually never had a girlfriend before me, as odd as that sounds.
When I’ve been thinking about my ex I sometimes feel his name come up in my mouth and then I think ‘crud dont say that!’. For guys though, I think it’s just habit. I dont think it really ever means anything. And you said he was embarassed and turned red, so really, I think it was just a very embarassing mistake!
Post # 9
well, his ex had the same name as me LOL So I voted No but, I guess I’ll never know.
Post # 10
I decided to ask him about it tonight – nothing heavy, just whether he really didn’t know why he said it and he said pretty much what a few of you have said on here – that he feels it coming up sometimes like a habit but he doesn’t know why (other than habit) because he doesn’t think about her. I truly believe him and feel loads better 🙂 Think I just worry because we got together so soon after they broke up and because they were so serious – I mean, he was going to marry her! He was two months off proposing, whereas he’s two years off proposing to me and that’s only a maybe lol.
Post # 11
I don’t think you should worry about it. SOmetimes our brains take over and after saying her name for so long, maybe it was just an instinct.
I’ve called my fiance my ex’s name, our dog’s name, and we’ve both done that “remember when” and then realized that we were describing experiences that we actually had with our exes.
Take it in stride, recognize he had a whole life before you, and know he loves you.
Post # 12
We both have on accident. Once he called me by our dogs name and another time he called me by our male hedgehogs name. Also, Mom which was pretty funny.
Post # 13
He called me an ex’s name early on in our relationship, but I’ve made that mistake more than once. It’s always only happened during an arguement which isn’t surprising because I was always fighting with that ex. I don’t think it really means anything other than that ex made it a habit to say his name when I was angry. Those things have definetely gone away over time.
Don’t read too much into it though, I know I wasn’t ever thinking about my ex when it slipped.
Post # 14
I can’t say he’s ever called me the wrong name. He didn’t date very many people (like 2) before we started dating, and I think he really tried to block them from his memory. And it was really easy for me to not call him my ex’s name because the guy I dated before my Fiance has the same name. I’m pretty sure I’ve accidentally called my Fiance Timmy a time or two…which is my dog’s name. Haha.
Post # 15
Darling Husband hasn’t done it but if he did it wouldn’t bother me. Why not? Because about 2 weeks ago I called him by my ex husband’s name! He wasn’t bothered but I felt horrible! I don’t know why I did it and I really hoope I never do it again!
Post # 16
I think you ladies are correct – it’s probably just habit. I mean, if I’m honest, I’ve called him my brother-in-law’s name and vice versa – just didn’t seem as important when it wasn’t an ex