(Closed) Wrong person for MOH?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

eek. well who knows what is going on in her life. honestly, i am finding with a lot of my friends that if they are not in good marriage-headed relationships they are only kinda happy for me. Like, yea okay they’re happy for me but seeing me get engaged/hearing about plans just reminds them that they’re not and its bad news bears. Unfortunately for me I only have one friend who is really in a great relationship and who TRULY seems happy and excited for me (although luckily for me she is the person closest to Fiance and me so she is my MOH). 

Is it possible that she is just feeling jealous? Regardless, if you asked her to be your Maid/Matron of Honor it is really hard to back out of that. The only way you could gracefully get out of it MAYBE is if you truly think she is not excited you could maybe mention to her that you’ve noticed how busy she is with (whatever she does) and suggest it might be less burdensome on her to be a bridesmaid… basically giving her the choice (and also cluing her into the fact that if she is going to be your Maid/Matron of Honor she needs to step up). But that could still get kind of ugly. Sorry :/

Post # 4
277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

How about just asking her straight out?  Not in a “bitchy/confrontational way” but more of a “I fell as if…. and it hurts me because I consider you as one of my closest friends….so, I just want to know that you really are happy for me/support me…”  Something along those lines.  Better get the answers now than keep stressing over it.  Just my 2 cents.  =)

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