(Closed) Wrong to be happy about getting married privately?

posted 5 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
666 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@UKbee:  Nothing wrong with that. We’re doing the same thing, and it’s stressful enough without having to worry about everyone else. I’m not sure how I’d cope if it was a “proper” wedding.

Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks. What could be more special than just the two of your promising to spend the rest of your lives together? 

Congratulations ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

It’s not wrong at all. In fact, despite the fact we’re only have 16 guests invited to ours I still envy you! Neither of us wanted anyone there at all but apparently due to the fact we’re not giving her any grandkids EVER, my Future Mother-In-Law would “hate me forever” if she didn’t get to see her only son get married. His words, not hers.

Still keeping it very casual and stress-free though. Literally getting married and then going home and I can relate to what you say about people seeing it as a little sad because the looks I get when I say I’m not having a reception or so much as going out for a meal to celebrate after is astounding. It’s as if they think I don’t take my wedding seriously.

So good on you for going with what you actually want. You have no reason to feel bad about it, and like you say you’re having a reception so it’s not like they’re missing out completely. Smile

Post # 5
1439 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

We eloped. I am so glad we got to share the memories between the two of us. There was no stress that day. Just the two of us being excited to start our adventure together! I wish we could do it again. 

Post # 6
2290 posts
Buzzing bee

There’s nothing wrong with being happy that you’re having a private ceremony. You’re doing what is best for you and your fiancée. 

Not everyone likes private ceremonies, and that’s ok. That means they shouldn’t have one when they get married, or they already had the kind of wedding they wanted.

You’re having the kind of wedding you want. That’s something to be very happy about.  

Post # 7
1671 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@UKbee:  Nope, it’s ok!

We had a destination wedding, but secretly got married just before we left for Mexico. We had the officiant provide witnesses. The officiant and witnesses were all super nice ladies, and we had just an awesome emotional mini service wearing jeans. I felt sooo happy, it is honestly one of my very favourite memories of Darling Husband and I. Then we got ice cream cones and smiled lots… And went home to spend the rest of the evening alone. It was an amazing secret wedding. ๐Ÿ˜€

None of our family saw our actual legal ceremony… But I found I don’t mind one bit. I would have been perfectly happy to have just that, without the wedding we had afterwards. 

So, it’s not sad, not at all! It’s very happy. Congratulations!

Post # 8
953 posts
Busy bee

We’re having a private ceremony and we’re super excited about it. Congratulations! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Good for you! We are 13 days away from our big to-do, and I completely wish it was just us!

Post # 10
357 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@UKbee:  That’s really what I wanted to do my my mom was PISSED and flipped out on me. We’re doing a destination wedding in Tulum, Mexico with about 15 guests. Next best thing I suppose!

Post # 11
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

No way! You’re definitely getting the best of both worlds!

Post # 12
357 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Fizzy8:  LOVE this! We’re doing a small destination wedding in Mexico but I would love the courthouse wedding to be just us. I’m going to suggest that!

Post # 13
657 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Not at all! Sometimes, my Fiance and I look at each other and wonder why we didn’t run away and elope. Or elope on one of the trips we’ve taken. For the most part, it hasn’t been too bad of an experience planning our wedding. But there are those days when one (or both) of our mothers are just being insane that makes it difficult.

As long as you’re happy, then I wouldn’t even worry! There’s always going to be someone who has an opinion that differs from yours – but it’s YOUR wedding, so I wouldn’t even stress about those people!


Post # 14
6123 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@UKbee:  Not wrong at all!  You will enjoy the no stress day – we did!

Post # 15
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

No way – we’re taking four people, but no family. and we’re SO excited!




Post # 16
428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

That’s a wonderful way to celebrate your marriage. It’s not wrong at all!

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