Post # 1
So SO and I just upgraded our wedding package dramatically just 5 months out from the wedding. We moved in from their smaller room to their large ballroom, and we also changed the dinner from the cheapest plated option to their grand buffet option. This means that during cocktail hour guests will have a cheese and cracker spread, fruit display, raw seafood bar, and 5 different finger food options being walked around (anything from bacon wrapped scallops to mac and cheese balls). The dinner will have caesar salad and pasta salad, truffle potatoes and herb rice, chicken marsalla, flat iron steak, and a salmon dish. So they can have 2 salads, 2 sides, and 3 different entrees. If they wanted a bit of each and wanted to go up for salmon after having the chicken, they can. Every table will also get chocolate covered strawberries during the toast. To top that off, we have a bar that will be open from cocktail hour (5:30) until 10:00 with premium alcohol options. We come from a group of heavy drinkers and food lovers and we’re lucky enough to make the upgrade work with our news jobs.
However, I’m stumped on what I want to do for wedding favors and don’t even think I will. I’m giving them a huge buffet with TONS of different options, wedding cake, chocolate covered stawberries, an awesome cocktail hour display, and all they can drink. I feel like that’s being a great host and is it wrong to NOT want to waste money on favors that just get left on the table?
Post # 2
I wouldn’t miss the favor. Most of them get left behind anways. Waste of money in my opinion.
Post # 3
We didn’t do them. I don’t think anyone cared. It seemed a silly expense. Congratulations!
Post # 4
Nope, I don’t think favours are needed or expected any more.
Your food sounds soooo good!!
Post # 5
yourhandinmine : I didn’t do favors, and most of the weddings I’ve been to have not had them either. I think you’re fine, most favors get lost/left behind/thrown away…
Post # 6
We did favors, had a brunch wedding with a books & tea theme, gave each guest an assortment of personalized tea bags… and like 3 people took them home. We still have tea from the wedding almost 2 years later lol. I think your idea is excellent 🙂 no one will even notice!
Post # 7
Can I be invited to your wedding??? LOL. yum!
it’s weird for me because the weddings ive been to actually have had little favors or centerpieces you can take home.
However, I personally, will prolly not do favors for my wedding. It can take up time and money and usually a big percentage of guests dont take them home and if they do, it just gets stashed or crammed with a lot of other clutter (ive seen this in many homes). So nah.
Post # 8
yourhandinmine : We did an edible favor – which is far more preferable than a personalized anything (here’s looking at you personalized coozies!), and still had tons leftover. Definitely skip the favor.
Post # 9
albf0812 : Your wedding sounds like an absolute dream. Books and tea and brunch! My kind of party <3 At least you can still enjoy the tea now- more for you!
OP I agree with everyone else. We’re probably doing favors because we have something in mind that’s special to us (jars of honey, as I’m a beekeeper), but if we didn’t have something special and specific in mind we wouldn’t bother. No need to have favors just for the sake of having them- that money could be better spent elsewhere, and it certainly sounds like you’re spoiling your guests as is 🙂
Post # 10
Thanks everyone! That also will save my day-of-coordintor from having more things to set up. We get such limited time to set up and I want to make it as easy as possible for them.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2018 - City, State
I’m not a huge favor person, even in weddings that aren’t super pricey. Unless it’s something I can eat right away (midnight donuts are fun!) then I usually won’t take it.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
I was so torn in doing favors as well. My thought being they are always left behind. So I think I have decided on doing glow necklaces (our wedding is more like a party). I’ll have a little note attacted to each one and then they can use them for our reception. You can get them on Amazon for cheap.
Post # 13
No one will miss favors. I only did them because my mom was so excited about her idea for them and paid for all them, otherwise I would have skipped it. I can’t even remember if most of the weddings I’ve been to had them, tbh.
Post # 14
I feel like favors have died. Nobody really wants them. Nobody notices if they are not there.
Post # 15
As a guest, wedding favors are literally the thing I care about the least at the wedding.