Wrong to not do a wedding favor? Insight appreciated!

posted 6 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 16
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2020 - --

I can’t remember a single favor I’ve ever gotten, other than a tube of bubbles when I was a kid. 

No one really needs cheap little tchotchkes. I feel like weddings now are way more about the experience – people want good food and fun atmosphere way more than a monogrammed coozie. 

Post # 17
871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

No favors here. We did, however, have to go boxes for folks to take home extra desserts as I purposely ordered  6doz cupcakes for 25 people and the venue also put out desserts.

Post # 18
658 posts
Busy bee

My brother and his fiance are doing favors – fishing lures with a tag on them so people can remove the tag and fish or just hang it. A good majority of people from both sides are fishers so it may actually get used.

BUT….I could care less about the favors. The two things most important are food and booze to me. Ha. I’ve been to some with favors and some to those without. Your food sounds sooooo good!!!!

Post # 19
14 posts

I personally couldn’t care less about favors but my mom got  the idea to order little honey jars from a company that sent them with a personalized label and payed for them herself so I let her. My wedding hasn’t happened yet so we’ll see how many honey jars get left on the table but I figure at least honey is something people can actually use.

Post # 20
871 posts
Busy bee

yourhandinmine :  We only did wedding favours for our wedding because they’re a tradition in my husband’s family so he wanted them. I didn’t have a strong opinion one way or the other so I just went along with it. The wedding favours I’ve liked at other weddings have been cute or edible small favours. some of the knickknack type ones I take to be polite and it ends up in a donation bin sooner or later. Not a fan of the favours that have the bride and groom’s names or wedding date on it. I’m supposed to drink my morning coffee with your photo mug? lol. And weddings that haven’t had favours, I haven’t missed them at all. 

Post # 21
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Hyatt Regency Grand Cypress

My fiancé insisted we needed favors, so I told him he could take care of that.

We get married May 4th and guess what? No favors. The other thing he “insisted” on that I told him to feel free to spearhead was programs. Guess what else we’re not having?

I really don’t think guests expect them anymore! And with people coming from out of town for weddings, they don’t want to have to transport them either.

Post # 22
84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

We aren’t doing favors… they’re just a small thing and don’t have much signifiance! 

Post # 23
1955 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

We didnt do them.  Theyre overrated.  Had a candy station with expensive candy though.  Real hit

Post # 24
4065 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Literally couldn’t tell you what the favor was at any wedding I’ve attended. Definitely skip.

Post # 25
390 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

We’re not doing favors. And honestly, as a guest, I don’t usually save them.

Post # 26
12086 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Favors are neither necessary nor in the US, traditional or expected. Miss Manners goes even further to say that a wedding is not a children’s party where guests need a little present to distract and remind them they aren’t the center of attention. 

The great majority of weddings I attend do not feature favors, including expensive black tie affairs where no expense was spared. 

Skip them. 

Post # 27
477 posts
Helper bee

yourhandinmine :  Hey OP 🙂 You are doing a lot for your guests’ comfort and enjoyment!!! If you want to do cheap favors, here is an idea my Fiance and I are doing. We thrifted lots of really beautiful teacups from places like GoodWill and other secondhand store (most were between $.50-$1.00), and had some custom tea bags printed with our intials and wedding 50 ($50.00), and we tied them together with ribbon we got at Michael’s ($34). Viola! We have 50 unique favors for around $100.00.

Our theme is an evening tea party type of thing, so it fit right in, and we thought our guests might like it more than other usual favors (not there is anything wrong with going the usual route!).

Post # 28
13590 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Agreed with PPs – favors are unncessary. 

Post # 29
469 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I’ve been to more weddings without favors than one with them. No one has gossiped about the lack of favors at weddings I’ve attended. (I didn’t have them either, but I feel like you never really know what people think about your own wedding, right?)

Post # 30
783 posts
Busy bee

yourhandinmine :  Wedding favors aren’t necessary and likely won’t be missed, but if you feel compelled, I’d suggest something consumable like chocolates or very small bottles of wine.

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