(Closed) Wrote a book. I hate it, but BF thinks it's great.

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@anon00:  I think your boyfriend mat genuinely like it, but more than that I think he is trying to support you. Maybe he thinks that you put your writing down too much and that you don’t think you’re good enough. Tell your boyfriend that you don’t think this novel is publishable, but it was a great learning experience and that it taught you how to persevere with a writing project, even if you don’t like where it’s going. I think you just need to let him know that you appreciate him encouraging you to follow your dreams and supoorting you, but you don’t want to do anything with this novel. 

If you don’t think it’s good enough to show to your uncle then I wouldn’t. My worry is that if it’s not good and you show it, your uncle might lose faith in your abilities. You need to make your boyfriend understand that your uncle’s opinion matters a lot to you, and you don’t want to run to him willy nilly with any old draft you’re not serious about. I’m sure your book rocks, though. I your boyfriend is super persistent, maybe you should publish it as a free e-book online, it’d help to see what other people think of your book and writing style in general and keep your man happy. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

@anon00:  First off, congratulations on finishing your project! That in and of itself is wonderful!

My friend from high school has decided to start writing smut novels and shows them to anyone and everyone – she promotes these self-published books on facebook with these horrible excerpts. I wish her husband hadn’t been so supportive and pushed so hard. And it really irks me that she keeps saying she’s a ‘published author’ – that’s what she lists as her occupation on facebook. I have papers legit published, so that really pisses me off. /rant

I work in publishing, and I know not everything I write needs to be sent off to an editor. Sometimes, it’s best to work it out on your own. (Although, I’m notoriously hard on myself, so I’ve had to be baited into submitting papers before).

Is your boyfriend a writer? Because if not, his pride for you might not be the best indicator. Why not go to a writing seminar? Get feedback from other writers. It might be best to get your feet wet with their critiques before showing it to someone whose opinion really matters to you.

I would tell your boyfriend that you’re thankful for his support, but that you’re just not ready to put this work forward. If he keeps pushing, I would be frank and let him know that while you appreciate his opinion, you don’t want to discuss it any further.

 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

@anon00:  I’m sure you could find a workshop that would be interested in your genre somewhere. I have a friend that writes fantasy, and she workshops with a few people that she hooked up with through a local comic book / sci-fi / fantasy book store. I would look into that, maybe?

Yes, I find her whole ‘career’ completely embarrassing. And that she has this blog and her father is always the only one commenting and is excited about how he can’t wait for the next book to come out. It so grosses me out. At least if they were good, I would understand, but unfortunately…

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