Post # 76
I don’t know how it’s possible to *not bother to be part of his kid’s life* when you two live together. But okay. His kid apparently doesn’t spend time at the house with him on any sort of a regular basis. Yet another stellar quality to note about this guy.
Post # 77
Sorry to be the one to say, but if these type of unwise choices are typical of OPs behavior, I can understand her mom’s reaction.
..Or this entire thread was started by a troll
Post # 78
- Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle
Well here’s my question: Having said everything you said, are you going to marry him or not?
Post # 79
No offense, but I think you both have some pretty major issues and shouldn’t be together. It’ll be pure misery for you both.
As for “I don’t want to be a mother.” First of all, if you marry him, you WILL be stepmother. And sometimes you don’t get the choice because of circumstances. In my previous marriage, my 4 stepchildren came to live with us permanently. It needed to be done so I was right there alongside my husband supporting him and this big change.
Post # 80
don’t really care to read your boohooing because of what I have bolded. You want to marry a guy with kids but don’t want kids to get in the way of your relationship with him. You’ve got issues and this whole “wtf” thread certifies that.
I am pretty sure we are not going to have children. I hate babies. Being pregnant looks horrible. I love my free time and being able to do whatever I want. I love my relationship with Fiance and don’t want kids to get in the way of it. I always envisioned not being a mother. I hate everyone telling me I’m selfish. I hate feeling the only reason I would want a kid is to please family. My mother will most likely never be a grandmother.
Well, on to my question. getting older scares the shit out of me. Fiance is an only child. My brother hated me since the day I was born and lives 5 states down so there will be no family when we’re older. Fiance and I don’t have many friends and those we do already have children or plan to. I am scared of years from now, out living Fiance and being all alone. My grandpa died so for years, my mother and I took care of my grandma until she passed. The thought of being all alone and/or dying alone is scary!
wow, how depressing. Lol.”
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