Post # 32
Just stay calm and wait for you to get your proofs from your photographer. My sister-in-law was concerned that her photographer didn’t get a single picture of her dress or of the two of them and of the cake etc. because she didn’t see the photographer the entire time. I was the Maid/Matron of Honor and I remember helping the photographer postion the dress on the rack so she could get some artsy photos. I told SIL to be patient that I’m sure they got pictures. Well the proofs came in this week and there you have it… very good photos and all the photos that she wanted were there. She said I don’t remember taking those! So I would just wait a little while before you go upsetting any especial the Mother-In-Law and before you get the work from your photographer. Then if there isn’t the photos that you’d want and more of the Mother-In-Law then I’d persue it.
Post # 33
I agree with Stacyrp in that you should wait to see the proofs before doing anything. But, if what you think to be true turns out to be the case (that important pictures/pictures you wanted) are missing, I think you need to call the photographer. If you paid for your own wedding, I can’t imagine why he would go with your Mother-In-Law and take her portrait during the wedding time. Why would he ever think that was okay? Ask him those questions and see what he has to say. I think another poster said, if it turns out that there are a crazy amount of Mother-In-Law pictures when there should have been bridal party/groomsmen/getting ready pictures, you need to be compensated for that. And since the photographer chose to use the time you were paying him for to do that, he should compensate you.
Yes, I’m sorry, your Mother-In-Law sounds crazy and you will probably have to deal with her forever. I would talk to your husband, and make sure he makes it clear to his mother that BOTH of you are upset and a little confused as to why she wanted pictures of herself when she knew the photographer should have been doing something else. But, your photographer is alledgedly a professional (I’m sure you paid him like he was, anyway!) and he should have known better.
Post # 34
I agree with everyone’s comments about your Mother-In-Law just taking your photographer during the wedding hours… I mean there is so much importance in capturing moments and its odd your photographer didn’t just postpone her and talk to you.
I do not know how long your photographer was MIA but the whole ordeal seems a bit odd.
Post # 35
saw your update, honestly I am not a catty person but I would stall stall and then stall some more on even letting her see those photos. Then after the book is done and weeks go by she can buy her own copies