Post # 1
Okay Bee’s, I have 2 sister’s..Serena and Lorena. Serena just got married to a terrific guy. And their wedding went off without a hitch…except one problem. Lorenas boyfriend…who EVERYONE hates, PROPOSED to her at their reception! EVERYONE, and I mean EVERYONE hates this guy…and I’ll tell you why..
Lorena is a 26 yr old single mother to an autistic child (from previous marriage). So she needs ALL the help she can get. Her boyfriend however, is only 20 years old. Jobless, car-less, DOES DRUGS, cheats on her CONSTANTLY (we even showed proof but because my sister is one of those ‘need-to-be-in-a-relationship’ type of girls, she stayed with him.) He SEXUALLY harassed me, threatened to kill a few members of my family, he even refuses to let us see her because he knows no one likes him! And get this…Because her boyfriend REFUSES to get a job, my family gives my sister money so she can make rent, but we just recently found out that EVERY cent we’ve given, has been spent towards more weed and drugs for him!!!! We’ve been unknowingly supporting him! I would TRY to overlook those facts if he were at least a good person, but he’s not! The police even found my 4 yr old nephew 4 blocks NAKED IN THE MIDDLE OF WINTER on his watch! He doesn’t care for my sister at all! BELIEVE ME WHEN I SAY HE IS THE BIGGEST LEECH AND P.O.S BOYFRIEND THERE IS!
My family hates him SO MUCH my mother had to talk everyone (Uncles, cousins, etc) out of riling up a mob to get the guy!
We have staged many interventions for my sister but she was more willing to dump her family than dump him. And we are currently working with CPS for the sake of my nephew as we have proof that her boyfriend is abusing him! But my sister being pathetic as she is, defended his EVERY action! saying “No he didn’t mean to” or “that didn’t happen”..even when everyone she’s saying that to, was there when it happened and saw it for themselves!
Serena, however, felt that she needed Lorena there on her special day because we’re all sisters….Lorena specified that if her boyfriend wasn’t invited then she wouldn’t come either…So the classy lady Serena is, she sucked it up and allowed him to come too. Everything went great, we hardly noticed his presence at all…until after the newleywed’s had their first dance…He went up to the dj and grabbed a mic and proposed to Lorena right there! My family is livid! Lorena of course said yes, because she’s a pathetic bimbo who my family has now decided to disown since she’s so pathetic it’s hard to watch anymore. What would YOU do if someone you ABSOLUTELY HATED, proposed to their S.O at your wedding?
Post # 3
Wow it doesn’t sound like a good situation.
Post # 4
Wow. As completely thoughtless as that proposal is, when it comes down to it, Lorena has to realize on her own what kind of a guy he is. In the meantime, try to keep in touch with her so she will at least have family to reach out to when she comes to her senses.
I don’t know how I’d feel if someone got engaged at my reception. I guess I’;d have to be in the situation to know.
Post # 5
Wow!! I can’t believe the nerve of people. Why do people have to rain on someone’s parade, just doesn’t make any sense. This guy sounds like a real winner. Too bad your sister can’t see through his bullshit!!
I would flip my shit if someone pulled this move at my wedding. There are 365 days in a year, and you decide to propose on my day!! Screw that lol
Post # 6
Wow…. that is horrible! I don’t know what I would do, but I would be really, really mad! That is so inappropriate!
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2012 - Salvage One, Chicago
I guess I would hope that there wouldn’t be anyone I detest at my wedding. It sounds like a bad situation, I don’t envy any of you. 🙁
Post # 8
That’s a really bad person for your sister to be engaged to- I would congratulate the couple quietly and then quickly move on if this happened at my wedding, maybe make the DJ make some unrelated announcement to bring the attention back to where it needs to be. That is probably the worst thing etiquette wise that you could do at a wedding though.
It sounds like you and your family are doing all you can. I hope your family has cut off all funds after they heard it was turning into drug money. I’m sorry, best of luck with this, sounds like your sister is refusing to make any good decisions and you really can’t do anything else besides push for taking away your nephew.
Post # 9
Omg this sounds like a movie!
Words fail me at this point, I would be LIVID if this happened to me.
It’s up to Lorena now, hopefully her eyes would be opened soon enough.
Post # 10
I am really sorry about your sister’s and nephew’s situation. This guy seems like a real low-life. Hopefully it will all work out for your family. As for some I hate or anyone at all even if I like them being proposed to at my wedding…….HELL NO!!!! That day is for me and my fiance and I would be absoultely disgusted if someone for their own selfishness would bring the spotlight on themselves. Even if it is meant with no disrespect, still it just seems to me like a way to get a free engagement party since everyone is there and partying already, because that will likely be what some people are talking about for the rest of the evening. I am not going to share the spotlight on my wedding day, and I am really sorry that this happened to you and your family.
Post # 11
I voted say nothing, but not because it’s not a big deal. Not going to lie, I’d be pretty pissed if that happened at my wedding. I don’t think I would cause a scene, though, since it would just give that loser more attention. I think I would just try to ignore them and move on. 🙁 I’m so sorry your sister is going through that!
Post # 12
During their first dance? You’ve got to be friggin’ kidding me!
What would I do? I’d beat the ever loving shit out of him, that’s what I’d do. Weddings are off limit for proposals, regardless of the circumstances. Who goes to a wedding thinking “I should totally make this day all about me” and what kind of SISTER would think that this was okay. The ONLY time that a wedding proposal would be tolerated would be if it was discussed with the bride and groom beforehand and even then I don’t think it’s appropriate.
He’s obviously a winner. At the rate he’s going, he’ll probably end up in jail before they even set a date.
ETA: Just saw the poll. I wouldn’t do any of those. I would remain calm while he was proposing like a douchebag, then I’d kindly ask him to step outside where I would tear him apart limb from limb.
Post # 13
That’s terrible. I’d probably congratulate them and seethe inside if I hated them. I’d definitely do some yelling just not in front of them. I’m not a fan of wedding propsals in general but that guy seems like a real douche.
Post # 14
Honestly, there isn’t much you can “do”. She’s going to have to figure out how bad of a guy he is on her own, no amount of telling her is going to change her mind. I wouldn’t give her any money, & hopefully your family stops as well. However, I’d still be there for her. If your family all turn their backs on her/ disown her, it doesn’t sound like she would want to turn to you guys for help if/when she needs it. She may feel she has no where to go & no one who supports her. I mean, not to judge but you called her a “pathetic bimbo” so it sounds like you don’t think much of her & she can probably tell. I would definitely involve CPS / the police to get the nephew out of that situation.
As far as him proposing at the wedding, you can’t really do much. I mean, if you knew before you likely could have told the DJ not to let anyone take the mic & talked to him about, asking him not to. I wouldn’t care if anyone proposed at my wedding (no one did), but the fact that they got engaged at all I think is the main problem, no one’s happy about their engagement, period. The fact it was at the wedding just makes everything worse since its someone they don’t like at all.
Also, if he threatened to kill me, I’d get a restraining order ASAP. By law he’d have to stay away from those he threatened.
Post # 15
I would’ve been the bigger person and congratulated them in front of everyone. And then when no one was looking punched him in the face and shoved him out the door. Where was that option in the poll
Post # 16
Congratulate them publicly, hope it fell apart before the wedding and take quiet pleasure in the fact that his gauche actions would make him even more disliked and disdained.