(Closed) WTF ASSHOLE! I can’t believe he PROPOSED at their wedding!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What would you do if someone you HATED, proposed to their S.O at YOUR wedding?
    Cause a scene, mostly by shoving your bouquet up his *ss! : (23 votes)
    16 %
    Say nothing. It's not a big deal. : (46 votes)
    32 %
    Congratulate the couple. : (58 votes)
    40 %
    Scream at him and immediately have them escorted out! : (17 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
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    1131 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Wow it doesn’t sound like a good situation. 

    Post # 4
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    2158 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Wow. As completely thoughtless as that proposal is, when it comes down to it, Lorena has to realize on her own what kind of a guy he is.  In the meantime, try to keep in touch with her so she will at least have family to reach out to when she comes to her senses.

    I don’t know how I’d feel if someone got engaged at my reception.  I guess I’;d have to be in the situation to know. 

    Post # 5
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    1326 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Wow!! I can’t believe the nerve of people. Why do people have to rain on someone’s parade, just doesn’t make any sense. This guy sounds like a real winner. Too bad your sister can’t see through his bullshit!!

    I would flip my shit if someone pulled this move at my wedding. There are 365 days in a year, and you decide to propose on my day!! Screw that lol

    Post # 6
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    2494 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Wow…. that is horrible! I don’t know what I would do, but I would be really, really mad! That is so inappropriate!

    Post # 7
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    521 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012 - Salvage One, Chicago

    I guess I would hope that there wouldn’t be anyone I detest at my wedding.  It sounds like a bad situation, I don’t envy any of you.  🙁

    Post # 8
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    878 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    That’s a really bad person for your sister to be engaged to- I would congratulate the couple quietly and then quickly move on if this happened at my wedding, maybe make the DJ make some unrelated announcement to bring the attention back to where it needs to be. That is probably the worst thing etiquette wise that you could do at a wedding though.

    It sounds like you and your family are doing all you can. I hope your family has cut off all funds after they heard it was turning into drug money. I’m sorry, best of luck with this, sounds like your sister is refusing to make any good decisions and you really can’t do anything else besides push for taking away your nephew.

    Post # 9
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    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Omg this sounds like a movie!

    Words fail me at this point, I would be LIVID if this happened to me. 

    It’s up to Lorena now, hopefully her eyes would be opened soon enough.

    Post # 10
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    359 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I am really sorry about your sister’s and nephew’s situation. This guy seems like a real low-life. Hopefully it will all work out for your family. As for some I hate or anyone at all even if I like them being proposed to at my wedding…….HELL NO!!!! That day is for me and my fiance and I would be absoultely disgusted if someone for their own selfishness would bring the spotlight on themselves. Even if it is meant with no disrespect, still it just seems to me like a way to get a free engagement party since everyone is there and partying already, because that will likely be what some people are talking about for the rest of the evening. I am not going to share the spotlight on my wedding day, and I am really sorry that this happened to you and your family.

    Post # 11
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    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I voted say nothing, but not because it’s not a big deal. Not going to lie, I’d be pretty pissed if that happened at my wedding. I don’t think I would cause a scene, though, since it would just give that loser more attention. I think I would just try to ignore them and move on. 🙁 I’m so sorry your sister is going through that!

    Post # 12
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    During their first dance? You’ve got to be friggin’ kidding me!

    What would I do? I’d beat the ever loving shit out of him, that’s what I’d do. Weddings are off limit for proposals, regardless of the circumstances. Who goes to a wedding thinking “I should totally make this day all about me” and what kind of SISTER would think that this was okay. The ONLY time that a wedding proposal would be tolerated would be if it was discussed with the bride and groom beforehand and even then I don’t think it’s appropriate. 

    He’s obviously a winner. At the rate he’s going, he’ll probably end up in jail before they even set a date.

    ETA: Just saw the poll. I wouldn’t do any of those. I would remain calm while he was proposing like a douchebag, then I’d kindly ask him to step outside where I would tear him apart limb from limb. 

    Post # 13
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    5668 posts
    Bee Keeper

    That’s terrible. I’d probably congratulate them and seethe inside if I hated them. I’d definitely do some yelling just not in front of them. I’m not a fan of wedding propsals in general but that guy seems like a real douche.

    Post # 14
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    3041 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Honestly, there isn’t much you can “do”. She’s going to have to figure out how bad of a guy he is on her own, no amount of telling her is going to change her mind. I wouldn’t give her any money, & hopefully your family stops as well. However, I’d still be there for her. If your family all turn their backs on her/ disown her, it doesn’t sound like she would want to turn to you guys for help if/when she needs it. She may feel she has no where to go & no one who supports her. I mean, not to judge but you called her a “pathetic bimbo” so it sounds like you don’t think much of her & she can probably tell. I would definitely involve CPS / the police to get the nephew out of that situation.

    As far as him proposing at the wedding, you can’t really do much. I mean, if you knew before you likely could have told the DJ not to let anyone take the mic & talked to him about, asking him not to. I wouldn’t care if anyone proposed at my wedding (no one did), but the fact that they got engaged at all I think is the main problem, no one’s happy about their engagement, period. The fact it was at the wedding just makes everything worse since its someone they don’t like at all.

    Also, if he threatened to kill me, I’d get a restraining order ASAP. By law he’d have to stay away from those he threatened.

    Post # 15
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    3618 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I would’ve been the bigger person and congratulated them in front of everyone. And then when no one was looking punched him in the face and shoved him out the door. Where was that option in the poll Wink

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Congratulate them publicly, hope it fell apart before the wedding and take quiet pleasure in the fact that his gauche actions would make him even more disliked and disdained.

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