(Closed) WTF my MOM must think this is a BROTHEL!!

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Oh.My.God. I don’t even know how to respond. That dress, is it a dress or a slip?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Wow, my mom is completely opposite so I can’t relate at all, but I am sorry you have to deal with this. It seems like you have tried to reason with her, is there anyone else you can have talk to her for you?

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Wow! That’s a little over the top.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Um… that’s ridiculous. At 44 years old, you owe it to yourself and the people around you to be more modest, if only because that’s the mature, responsible thing to do. It doesn’t matter how amazing you look at that age, wearing a dress that’s intended for a teenager/young adult is just gonna look skany and desperate.

And to do it at your daughter’s wedding is just rude.

If I were you, I’d tell your mom that you don’t want her upstaging you on your big day and you would appreciate if she covered herself up in something more appropriate. If she wants to dress like that outside of your wedding that’s her perogative, but this is your event and it would be disrespectful of her to take the focus off of you and your future husband.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I am usually really laid back on what people should wear but I would NEVER let my mom wear that! No 44 year old should ever wear that!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

In all honesty, she is going to look like a fool.  People will be talking, and not about the great shape she has kept herself in.  I would try to have a serious talk with her.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

Yep. Its a little too much for a MOB, and I don’t care HOW great she looks. Can you go out with her and shop and maybe enlist the help of a stylist/consultant to help out?

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

oh.my.goodness…. um…. i wouldn’t want anyone at my wedding wearing that! congrats to her for being able to pull it off, but sometimes just because you CAN, doesn’t mean you SHOULD. if she’s in great shape, she’ll rock whatever dress she wears. she doesn’t need to dress like a desperate, middle aged, divorcee. it screams, LOOK AT ME! I NEED VALIDATION! people will not be impressed by it, they will mock it. sorry. i have no advice, just sorry she is being difficult=( 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Wow, um, that is…quite a dress.

I think its totally inappropriate for a wedding and people will be talking about her the whole night, and not in a good way.

I do know that weddings can be difficult for moms to deal with too and she may be acting out because she is afraid she is getting old and her “baby” is getting married. Just remind her that she will look beautiful in anything she puts on, but to respect your wishes and wear something a little more conservative. You want to have a mom on your wedding day, not a pin-up.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

@lwilliams107: Hmmm…maybe send her some links of things you like and see what she says? She can look at evening gowns, but not PROM gowns. Surprised

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Aye, yai, yai – Your mama drama is too much. She is being ridiculous and she doesn’t seem very considerate of your feelings. If she is dead set and you know there’s no changing her mind, is there any way for you to know in your heart that she will be seen for what she is and just let go of the fight?

I know, I know, easier said than done. But if you can release her craziness to the universe and not be responsible for her decisions, you might get a little peace of mind. * hugs *

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

OMG I just had a similar conversation with my mom the other night.  She’s in her early 50’s (also divorced) and kept going on and on about how she wanted to show off her boobs because they are her best asset.  I was shocked at the dresses she was looking at.  Best part was she kept calling herself obese (she is overweight) and then comparing herself to me and saying we were the same (she doesn’t get that just because my bra size is only one size down from her it doesn’ mean we are the same sizes elsewear).  Mother’s what can you do with them or without them….gotta love the fun.

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