(Closed) WTF? People dropping like flies five days before the wedding.

posted 9 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

People can be super flaky and shit happens, I learned that from our wedding. We had 14 people not show up that RSVP’d yes, so yeah…we lost quite a bit of money on them. Shake it off, have some wine. 😉

Post # 4
47448 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Things happen. None of these people were being deliberately inconsiderate. Perhaps #1, #3, and #5 did ask for the time off and either had it revoked or the schedule was changed at the last minute. Most people do not control their own work schedule.

Be grateful you are not paying for 4 more meals.

Post # 6
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I had 3 people text me the day OF my wedding to tell me they weren’t going to make it. Yeah it sucks but trust me you won’t even care come Saturday 🙂 (That’s not to say you won’t be pissed for awhile afterward…)

Post # 7
861 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@GreenEyedMoon: I’m so sorry!!  it totally sucks.  it happened to us too two weeks ago… literally 1-2 days before the wedding our count went from 147 to 105.  I was baffled!!

Post # 8
730 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yeah… we ended up paying for 9 people that didn’t show up. 7 of them let us know in the week leading up to the wedding, but we had already paid the balance by then. 

They were almost all justified though… one was a family of four from out of town and the mother had just been diagnosed with breast cancer and was going through chemo, and they decided last-minute that they couldn’t make the trip. One was a teacher who had taken his kids to a ROPES course, and ended up in the hospital with really bad rope burns and was on too many pain medications to drive (so random!). Three were a friend of DH’s from college whose grandpa died unexpectedly, and two others who were supposed to make the road trip with her (but ended up not coming because she wasn’t coming).

One was DH’s cousin. He didn’t come because he had to work. I know for a fact that this guy gets his work schedule two weeks in advance. He never let us know he wasn’t coming. If he would’ve told us, we could have avoided paying for his meal. Instead, we were just surprised that he wasn’t there on the day-of!

Post # 9
297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Be glad people told you period. I had 12 RSVP’d guests not show up to our wedding. I was PISSED!! No call, no text. I haven’t heard from a few of them since before our wedding. I think they know if they contact me, I’ll tell them what assholes they are for RSVPing to a wedding, then not showing up. I wouldn’t be mad if they had at the very least given me 24 hours notice. People do shady things like that. I guess it prooves the statement, “you find out who your true friends are”…to be true. UNLESS, they have circumstances like your friends who had legitimate excuses.

Post # 10
1331 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I hear that happens. I’m prepared for people just to not show up. I did have one person (a very good friend of 14 years) decide last week he couldn’t make it. He got laid off, and couldn’t afford the plane ticket. Today, his Girlfriend (one of my BMs) called to let me know he will be in town after all, but for a funeral, so don’t get pissed if I find out he’s in town. Haha, I appreciated the heads up.

Post # 12
171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Just wait for those people who RSVPd “yes” and then don’t show up for a dinner you paid for.  Soo frustrating! 

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