(Closed) WTH?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

This is his rodeo honey, stop trying to run it and enjoy the show!

Post # 4
97 posts
Worker bee

Maybe he finally found a ring? I wouldn’t push it too much just in case. If he has questions about it he knows that he can come to you.

Get excited for any surprises!


Post # 5
646 posts
Busy bee

I think its very possible that he has the ring….and now thinks you will be disappointed since its not the one you are now in love with. Which is why he doesnt want to talk about it.

Post # 6
118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Hard as it is I think you need to relax and let him plan things his own way.  He’s given you a timeline of this year so unless you get to next year and nothing’s happened I don’t think you need to worry. 

I have the same timeline and other than looking at a few rings online together when we first discussed it we haven’t really had any conversations about it.  When I got a bit antsy (just before I got the timeline), my SO said “I only get to do this once in my life, I want to be able to surprise you and give you a story to tell our children”.  In fact I accidently upset things a bit yesterday because I kept asking him for times he’d be free to look round houses with me (we’re currently house hunting for our first house to rent together) and he ended up admitting that he couldn’t do today because he had to stay in for a ‘special delivery’ (my ring).  He wanted it to be a secret that he’d actually got it, but never mind, the proposal will still be a surprise because I’ve no idea when that’ll be or what he’ll do 🙂

In general I don’t think guys feel the need to talk about every little detail of everything in the way we often like to, so I think you need to trust your guy that he will stick to the timeline he’s given you.  It might be a bit easier for me because I don’t have my heart set on any particular type of ring, I know I will love whatever he gets me because he has chosen it for me.

Just 4 months max left for us to wait 😀  Enjoy!

Post # 7
3420 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

@Nona99:  +1 Yeehaaw

Post # 8
684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I would let it go for now. I used to send helpful hints to SO and he just got confused because it didn’t fit with his idea of what the ring should look like.

Post # 9
2966 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My guy was very unresponsive to my countless lets-get-engaged efforts and I’d be  hurt but only to learn that he had it planned for a looong time and I was just being annoying. 

So let it goooo. You can’t change what he already has in his mind; and also, ring picking is very difficult without us women interfering …IDK about you,  but i change my mind 23048 a day. 

EDIT: I really learned to turst him after this. They are not as helpless as we make them out to be ;).


Post # 10
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

maybe he already has a ring and doesn’t want you to know!

Post # 11
9891 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Lulume:  Is it possible he has a ring already?  Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Post # 12
856 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Like others have said. Is it possible that he already has a ring? And now he is nervous/worried/upset that you may not like the ring he picked out for you because you deemed this ring the one you love?

Post # 14
914 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Maybe he is just saving it to look at on his own time. You sent it to him and even though he was a bit dismissive, he could just be trying to throw you a red herring. My Fiance was resistant to talking about wedding stuff for the most part but now that we are engaged he said he will be ready and willing.

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