(Closed) WWYD?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It’s very exciting that you will get to CHOOSE where you end up.  Everyone I know in PHD programs basically had to take jobs where ever would take them and was beneficial to their career.

i think you should talk to him about the possibilities and where he can envision the two of you starting your life together.  I would also address how he feels about uprooting and starting all over in another city. 

I don’t think when he proposes should affect your job hunt.  It sounds as though you are both already committed so it shouldnt matter!!

Post # 4
10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Why not talk to you Boyfriend or Best Friend about the timeline, his reasoning for the 3 year time frame, and how he would feel about an earlier engagement because of your graduation timeline?

We can’t give you answers – only he can. Communication!!!! Being open about this is the only way to not risk having resentment.

Post # 5
1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

If it’ll be 3 yrs in Fall 2012 that means you guys have only been together about 1.5 yrs right? Nothing wrong with that, just think you shouldn’t try to move it up – you might freak out your SO. Why don’t you talk to him about your future and see what you guys envision. If you see your future in your current state then plan accordingly. If not – ask if he’d want to move. It sounds like you guys are on the same page, so if I were you I’d plan as if you guys were going to get married and live happily ever after. But at the end of the day u have to do what makes you happy.

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