Post # 1
This may be long so please stick with me.
My sister is a lesbian with a partner. She is young (20) but she seems to have been with this lady for about 7 months, so I think it will last. When discussing my guest list she asked if she could get a +1. I told her I had no issue with it. She lives in CO, I live in TN. She said dad is paying her her plane ticket. Well, the issue of hotels came up. Before she asked for a +1 my dad said he would share a hotel with her because she has no money and he knows it’s important to me that she be here. When I mentioned to dad the other day that she wants to bring her partner I also mentioned that it might be awkward for him to share a room with her and her partner. My dad knows she is a lesbian, and doesn’t have a problem with it PER SAY, but he is hardcore Catholic and tries not to acknowledge it. So, I asked dad if he would be willing to pay for her room. He said no, because he is already buying her ticket and paying for each of them to stay in an $89 a night room is just too much.
SHE CAN NOT STAY HERE! There is no room at the inn here LOL. I am busting at the seams. To complicate matters, my son (19 y/o) moved 7 hours away and I already have to pay for his plane ticket and hotel room in addition to the wedding costs so paying for my sis to stay in a hotel for 2-3 days is just not in the budget. She makes minimum wage, and her partner is a full time student. I don’t think it’s in their budget either.
How would you handle this?
Post # 3
Do you have other friends that might be willing to share a room with them? Can they stay with your son?
Post # 4
Her partner just can’t come. Your dad is paying for her plane ticket and hotel. If it’s that important for the partner to come, they need to come up with the money for BOTH of them or drop it. It’s as simple as that. Beggars can’t be choosy…
Post # 5
Unless her partner can pay for her half and part of a hotel room I would say she could not come.
Post # 6
@weddingdiva-in-training: I agree with this. The gender of your sibling and their partner has nothing to do with it– either she can bring her SO and pay their hotel fees or she can come and room with her dad!
Post # 7
@KoiKove: you know I didn’t consider this option. I will call my son and ask if he’s cool with it. Thanks!
To everyone else-I guess I am worried about her thinking I have issue with her being a lesbian if I tell her her partner has to pay her way or not come. She does not get a whole lot of support from my family so I am sensitive to that. I do tend to over think these things so maybe I should just take a deep breath, explain it to her, and go from there.
Post # 8
I figured it out! We are going to use CC miles to pay for my sister’s room. Darling Husband racks them up on AmEx for business purposes so we’ve got plenty. Yay!
Post # 9
@shedayz: I’m so glad that it worked out! I was about to post that she should indeed come and to offer some suggestions but it seems to have worked out beautifully.