(Closed) WWYD? Dropping out of a wedding, bride wants the bridesmaid dress given to her

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
1774 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

The only situation where you are obligated to give her the dress is if she had paid for it.  I agree with everyone else.

Post # 18
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Seriously, she thinks you should just give it to her?!?!?!?!?! She must be drinking too much wedding punch. Maybe in a day she’ll call back and have her head screwed on straight. Seriously, effed in the head. I agree she should pay for it if she wants it!

Post # 19
6659 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yeah I mean obviously you don’t have to give it to her. She’s being ridiculous. I will also say in my opinion it sounds like she doesn’t really understand what friendship is..

Post # 20
332 posts
Helper bee

You are in the right. Why is this bride so worried about new girl not paying for the dress and wasn’t worried about all the expences you and the other bridesmaids had to shovel out. Wow! The cost of everything sounds outrageous! I would have dropped out too. Keep the dress unless she pays for it!

Post # 21
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Wow.  I’m on the boat with everyone else.  What a loon this woman seems to be…

Post # 22
321 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011 - Anthony’s Fine Dining

She’s being ridiculous.  The whole reason you dropped out in the first place was money, and now she wants you to give away a brand new dress that you purchased?  She just doesn’t get it.

Post # 23
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

DO NOT GIVE HER THE DRESS! It is yours. However if she wants to pay for it thats another story ( I also suggest a mark up in price 😉

Post # 24
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

This bride is nutso. You are totally right to keep the dress unless you get reimbursed. I’m not sure why she thinks she’s entitled to it for free.

I also read through the other thread just now, and I’m really sorry you had to deal with all this. I can’t believe you were expected to pay that much for the shower and b’ette party.

Post # 25
235 posts
Helper bee

Okay, I’m going to suggest a different possible solution if you decide that you want to keep her friendship.  What if you offer to LOAN the dress to the new bridesmaid and then get it back after the wedding to wear to the function you plan to wear it to?  As long as she doesn’t alter it, no harm done?  You didn’t say if you still plan to attend this wedding.  I think you need to decide if you want to keep this girl in your life or not. After all, you are the one who cancelled on her no matter how justifiable the reasons were.  I think if you don’t offer up the dress, your friendship is pretty much over.

Post # 26
7172 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Wow – she’s being ridiculous.  I can kind of see her point (ie: you aren’t going to be using it, it’s already bought, what’s the big deal).  HOWEVER – I would never demand that you give up the dress – especially after explaining that you’d like to be compensated for it, etc.  She’s obviously acting out her disappointment in you stepping down (since didn’t she originally agree to help you with costs) – meaning, if money isn’t that big of an issue – her paying for the dress shouldn’t be the real reason behind her angst.

What unnecessary drama.  Life is too short.

And, I’m sure all of this makes you see how you made the right decision in stepping down 🙂

Post # 27
3041 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Crazy!! I wouldn’t give her the dress unless she paid for it right then & there after the way she just acted.

Maybe see if the place your mom bought it from would take it back for instore credit or something? Or just keep the dress & enjoy wearing it to that other event :).

Post # 28
3620 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

That’s ridiculous. I had a bridesmaid drop out of my wedding, and when I asked another friend to be in the wedding with less notice than the other girls, I BOUGHT HER DRESS FOR HER. I didn’t expect the former bridesmaid to buy it for her! That’s just dumb!

Post # 29
7776 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Um… yeah. She’s ridiculous. There is no way I would let her have that dress without paying for it.

Post # 30
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

It’s your dress.  You (via your mom) paid for it.  You don’t owe her the dress. And it’s not like you dropped out a week before the wedding! There’s plenty of time to order a new dress/solve the problem. 

Post # 31
2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I agree with everyone- you bought the dress, it’s yours (and she is nutty for thinking otherwise).

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