(Closed) WWYD? Dropping out of a wedding, bride wants the bridesmaid dress given to her

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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622 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@MstoMrs: 

I agree with all the other bees as well. Don’t just give her the dress. In My Humble Opinion, I wouldn’t blame you if I were the bride for dropping out of my wedding if I acted anything like that, much less try to give a guilt trip for not giving be a dress that you paid for yourself. Umm can you say CRAZY????

Post # 33
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1882 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Tell her no that you have already found a buyer on craigslist.

Post # 35
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374 posts
Helper bee

@redherring:  I totally agree with this!

No matter the hurt feelings, your mom paid for the dress.  It’s your’s.  Period.  The bride nor the new Bridesmaid or Best Man are entitled to the dress free of charge.  That’s just plain nuts to me! 

I’m happy you’ve dropped out.  The entire situation sounds like it’s turning into a downward spiral without cruise control.

Post # 36
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1585 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think that she is being incredibly rude seeing that she knows the stress of planning a wedding.  I don’t understand how she can even justify asking you to give her the dress.  Keep the dress, it is yours unless someone wants to pay you for the dress. 

Post # 37
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1032 posts
Bumble bee

Oh my goodness, what a nut!! I am so sorry you have to deal with this, and I am happy for you that you stepped down.

She IS an actual Bridzilla! I totally thought they were only mythical creatures from TV…

You have done nothing wrong, she’s off her rocker…WAY off, we are talking rolled out of her rocker on the top of a mountain a week ago and is still tumbling “off”. Keep the dress unless she wants to pay for it, wait for her to come to her senses, hopefully she will someday and you can renew this friendship post wedding craziness… but run away when she decides to have a baby for fear of “huge-event-insanity” relapse…just kidding! sort of 🙂

Post # 38
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2867 posts
Sugar bee

Craziness.  A word of caution, if she agrees to buy it from you, make sure she pays in a cash.

Post # 39
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2203 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Remember when she offerred to pay for your share of the festivities? Why doesn’t she pay for the dress for the new girl since she asked her so late?

Can imagine what she’d be like leading up to her wedding day? Bridezilla…yikes.

Post # 40
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2739 posts
Sugar bee

Well, if she was willing to pay all that money to keep you in her bridal train, why can’t she pony up this small dollar amount for a dress? And sorry to all the bees out there with huge wedding parties but seriously…. 10 bridesmaids???!! Surprised

Post # 41
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937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It’s your dress, period. She has plenty of time to order another dress. Be glad you dodged that bullet, delete that whackjob’s number and have yourself a glass of wine.

Post # 42
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1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

She sounds like a spoiled brat. I’m glad you got out of it. Of course it’s your dress. I think yo ushoudl make a pillow out of it and give it to her as her wedding gift.

Post # 43
Member
513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

O my she is a nutty bride. I read the other post and she is being rediculous. I am glad you made the decision to drop out and you even did it in a nice way. Wow how crazy of her to ask yo to GIVE the dress to the new Bridesmaid or Best Man. WoWEEE.

Post # 44
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3761 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

In any normal situation, I would say split the difference of the dress since most likely you won’t wear it again.  However, in this situation, I agree with marking it up or saying you already have another interested buyer willing to pay full price.  

Nothing bugs me more than people acting like they are entitled to something.  After all you have gone through, and purchasing the dress, there is no reason for her to think you should give it to her.  

Post # 45
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1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@MstoMrs: I’m so glad you dropped out of this wedding. This bride is out of control. You bought a dress and coincidentally, it was originally for her wedding. That doesn’t mean she has a right to it. If she wants a replacement Bridesmaid or Best Man, SHE can pay for her new dress. It’s especially absurd coming from a bride that has BMs paying for such expensive parties for her…I’m sure she can afford the dress!

Post # 46
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445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

You just dropped out of her wedding in large part because of financial considerations … and she expects you to just give her the dress. Is this woman on crack?

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